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My SBXH has our daughter on a 3 out of 5 weekend schedule. He also takes her one week during the Summer. This is the third year. He hasn't taken her away on a vacation because of the financial mess he has put himself in. They just stay at his place and do things that don't cost much money if any. Our daughter is autistic and has very limited language. I asked him if during the week he could keep me in touch on how things are going with texting. He wrote two hours after he picked her up and I haven't heard from him since. When your children are away for a week, do you have any contact with them or your spouse if they are younger? I don't expect it during the weekends, but thought he could do it during the week since I asked.

Our divorce papers say both parents shall have reasonable and private phone conversations with child.

Next time, start out a couple of weeks ahead emailing: I would like to talk to our child each evening before bed when you have her for the week.

If your divorce isn't final yet, get this put into the final papers. Also, a quick call to your atty and him calling SBXH should get this resolved if you want to talk to her today.

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 5:44 PM, August 9th (Friday)]

I usually talk/text with the ex at least once a day, but more often multiple times. I send a text when I wake up just asking how they are, and I'll send one before they go to sleep to have them call if they want. They're active boys, so they usually don't call, but ex still replies. The ex calls every night I have them as well, just to see how their days went. Have you tried sending a text? No way my ex could think about doing something like that on his own,

I don't speak with my son but mainly because he is two and his father hasn't had him for more than 4 nights yet. That will change though once the divorce is final.

No way in hell I would go a week without speaking to my children.

I asked him when he picked her up if he would send me some texts during the week to let me know how things were going. He seemed very agreeable to it. He sent me one that night and I have not heard from him since. I sent him two today which he has not responded to. Maybe his girlfriend told him he shouldn't do it. My daughter is autistic and does not have the language to use the phone.

Considering my ex is litigious, accuses me on a regular basis of parental alienation, and sent me an article about how contacting kids on the other parents' time is a form of alienation... no. I don't.

My kids are older, though, and when they text me while they're at their Dad's, I very eagerly respond!

I'm at my longest time during the year when I don't see them (almost 2 weeks, his summer visitation) and it's very hard. But it is what it is.

I told my kids (who are coming back from their week's vacation tomorrow-- yay!) that they could call me whenever they wanted to. DD called twice because she missed me. But, I was able to cheer her up, so I was glad that XWH let her. We then have the understanding that I will call at the halfway point on Wednesday to check in and say hello. Otherwise, I keep my distance because that is their time with him and his parents, and I would resent the heck out of him if he called me constantly while the kids were away with me. Plus, I don't want to set my kids back emotionally-- if I call, they'll miss me and feel sad, etc. Better to leave it up to them if they want to call.

However, I do not have children with special needs, so that is totally different. I might want an end-of-the-day check in, like before bed to say goodnight.

Is there any way you could do a video chat on a webcam?