And I don’t like it.
39 years ago today, I got married. There are things to laugh about, now. Like how I chose the anniversary of the Nagasaki bombing as a wedding day. Or how I got married on the exact day that Richard Nixon resigned, so my wedding rehearsal was during the Nixon administration, and my wedding was during the Ford administration.
It seems like even though I don't obsess about dates much anymore, my body still ramps up the stress as they approach. D-Day#1 and the wedding anniversary being the worst.
I hope that once this divorce becomes final that that will go away, or at least get weaker.
It doesn't help much that I'm going through some job uncertainty right now. My last contract ended, and I'm on the bench, collecting a paycheck, but I was warned I'd be laid off if nothing came up in a month. Two months max. So I don't even have a definite date there.
The last week or so has been a bit ominous and unsettled. Now that this day is here, and almost past, I'm feeling better. I had a good client interview today, so that helps.
Short synopsis of the divorce, for those who haven't paid attention to my whining before: D-Day 1: January 2009, discovered OM#1 (PA) and #2 (EA) D-Day 2: March 2009, discovered OM#3 Filed: April 2009 Fired from my job September 2009 Unemployed, and postponing Divorce for over a year. Finally got it moving again in 2012 Trial June and August 2012 We're just 3 weeks away from an entire year since the close of the trial. The judge heard the case, took the testimony, and has not entered a decision yet.
In some ways, it's good that it took a while, because I had to reconcile losing half my family farm to the cheater in the divorce. That is not something I could have accepted overnight.
I'm not sure that I have the longest divorce in SI history, but I'm certainly in the running.
Another laugh: When I discovered her new active PA and confronted her, she informed our adult children via text message, along these lines: "We've been married 34 years, doesn't look like we'll make 35".
And here we are, still technically married, 39 years today.
But only technically. I check the mailbox every day for the decision.
Guideline disclaimer: Politician's names are being used in a historical, not a political context
I will hope it's very very very soon, and you can close this chapter. I'm ready to party with you when it is done.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009. EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
I hope the papers arrive soon for you so the rest of your life can move forward as well.
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.
I hope the judge rules in your favor and the final decision arrives soon.
Hugs
K
It's impossible to find closure when the divorce is still considered open.
About the dates. I'm one that naturally remembers them. FT and were married June 21st 1986. Every year I remembered it, how could I not? But this year my first year on being officially D,my only thought was it was the first day of summer not that it would have been our 27th wedding anniversary. It took 5 years after dday but it happened ! Hugs and sending mojo the job continues without any delays. Next year will certainly look different for you. Gma
Lots of cases are going through both the court and the lawyer. Things sometimes get missed. A little prod and having someone check, especially since it has been this long, is not unreasonable.
ETA: Should have read GMA's post first, which says essentially the same thing!
[This message edited by osxgirl at 6:58 AM, August 10th (Saturday)]
