Wh is driving me crazy!
I always ask if anything new has happened at work. he always had a habit of telling mil (who works at the same place) stuff but wouldn't tell me.
Lately he's told me stories of stuff that has happened that really makes me mad!
These are just two examples:
1. He's out on break outside with two other guys. A "hot chick" in a mini skirt is in sight. Apparently she's upset. All three guys stare, gawk, etc. They are all walking inside, wh first in line when hot chick bends over revealing that she's not wearing anything under her mini skirt.
(WHAT WOMAN DOES THIS???)
Anyways, wh stops short, second guy runs into him, third guy runs into second as all are paying attention to the show and not where they are walking...
2. Last night he told me about one female employee, not on shift, came for a visit...she says hi, wh turns around to see she's not wearing much. He comments in a joking manner "I think your shirt has shrunk since its not covering much".
He then tells me that from a ways away an older woman says "that's what I told the little skank when we got in the car". It was the girls mother...He goes on about talking to her but I don't recall specific quotes. In any case to me he was flirting.
Wh doesn't hide the fact he's checking out a girl. Many times he makes a comment to me...he used to try and hide it, mainly after DDay but I could always see his eye line even if he didn't turn his head.
#1. Isn't about him looking. I don't have a problem with him looking at other woman. I DO have a problem with him telling me shit like this with such enthusiasm it's like a child telling a story about cleaning out the candy store!!!
I see #2 as a prelude to another A.
A. He continues to "flirt"
B. flirting is a violation of boundaries
C. Without boundaries the line separating being friendly vs being to friendly is easily crossed.
I try not to let my self esteem take a hit when he tells me things like this but its hard. I'm 4'9" and 160lbs and older than him. So when he goes on about skinny younger woman it's something that creeps into my head "is that what he really wants?".
All of the online ads he responded to (or those who responded to his ads) involved the same sort of woman, young, skinny, "hot".
Ow#1 (ea was all i could prove and all he would admit to) was younger but not exactly skinny.
Ow#2 (pa) was older. Again not exactly thin. Actually pig faced...
Any time he's told me stories that sound like flirting I say so and he always responds with:
"it's my personality"
"I'm just being friendly"
"It's not flirting".
We obviously see things very differently because simply offering the guy next door working on the apartment in the heat a drink was totally crossing the line for me!
I have told him that i dont want to hear about stories like the above. I want to know how his JOB is. It's like talking to a five year old, in a different language while he's wearing ear plugs!!!
I have tried to ignore. Even getting up and leaving the room.
Perhaps I need to turn the tables around and start dishing out the same to him.
"I went for a walk with the kids and this guy passed us. He was soooooo hot. Muscles bulging so big it was stretching his shirt. He smiled at me as he walked by".
(note: I don't actually find big muscles to be attractive...)