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PrincessPeach06 (original poster member #39588) posted at 2:06 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
Absolutely NO exercise has helped me like running. It clears my head and brightens my whole day no matter what kind of mood I wake up in. The sense of accomplishment is amazing too - I started at a couple miles (I am a former runner) and ran 4 today - and seeing my time improve is fun too. I just crank Pink and Kelly Clarkson and go, it is truly something I think every BS should at least try if they are physically able. It isn't for everyone but you never know until you try! :)
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Me (BS): 36
Him aka narcissistic psychopath (WS): 36
Married 17 years 6 kids ages 16-7
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013
Finally this is R 8/14/13
Filed for divorce 5/8/15
PrincessPeach06 (original poster member #39588) posted at 2:10 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
That should be BS!!!! LOL. Maybe WS's too - I wish mine would. :)
Me (BS): 36
Him aka narcissistic psychopath (WS): 36
Married 17 years 6 kids ages 16-7
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013
Finally this is R 8/14/13
Filed for divorce 5/8/15
hardtimesinlife ( member #10468) posted at 2:20 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
Reading the thread title I thought you were on the hunt for every ws and they should run from you
Ddays 2004 & 2007
I cut my losses mid 2013
Feeling happier every day :)
PrincessPeach06 (original poster member #39588) posted at 2:22 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
LOL! Sorry about that - I always think "wounded spouse" for some reason and can't get that out of my head. I tried to change the title but can't. :)
Me (BS): 36
Him aka narcissistic psychopath (WS): 36
Married 17 years 6 kids ages 16-7
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013
Finally this is R 8/14/13
Filed for divorce 5/8/15
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 2:24 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
I corrected it for you
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
PrincessPeach06 (original poster member #39588) posted at 2:30 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
Thank you!
Me (BS): 36
Him aka narcissistic psychopath (WS): 36
Married 17 years 6 kids ages 16-7
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013
Finally this is R 8/14/13
Filed for divorce 5/8/15
IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 2:41 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
I used to run daily. I loved it. I hurt my foot and now the Dr. says no more running
I miss it so much and walking just doesn't give me the same payoff. I do advise running for anyone as long as you a physically capable.
Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"
MrsDoubtfire ( member #24786) posted at 2:46 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
I ran at my best during those awful post Dday times.... 12-15 miles... usually crying but then I thought people would probably think it was due to the exertion and not because I was a BS
Running stopped me killing people!!
BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now become†
Thinkingtoomuch ( member #31765) posted at 4:18 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
For those who can't run, I walk fast about 4-5 miles a day at work (20 hours week) and about 1 mile each day additionally outdoors. It absolutely is great. Outdoors lets the brain stuff loose into the sky and there's a million distractions. You can walk any pace that gets your blood moving.
I used to run track my whole younger life, and hiked 7-12 miles on a weekend and then still run after getting home. It is true, if you can run, it is very, very, very good. The endorphins to the brain and body are wonderful.
I do miss it, but the muscles, and ligaments just won't take it at all anymore. Thank God for walking. A major stress buster.
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brokensmile322 ( member #35758) posted at 6:22 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
Oh my gosh! I agree!
I just did a couch to 5k plan and ran my first 5k. I have signed up for a few more as well this fall. My goal is a half next spring.
I feel so great and people tell me I look great too!
Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl
"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."
Dallas2 ( member #28362) posted at 6:42 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
I too was a runner and nothing works better at clearing your head. Of course getting or keeping in shape is a side benefit.
I can no longer run and I miss it. If posiible run or walk. If not try some yoga!
catlover50 ( member #37154) posted at 10:27 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2013
I ran so hard after Dday I got a stress fracture in my foot! And I did it without eating. I kicked my H's ass up our favorite tough mountain hike--I told him I had "righteous zeal". I had so much energy to burn, and being 7 pounds lighter helped.
Slowed done after taking a break to heal the foot and gaining 5 of the pounds back (damn happiness!), but we are getting ready to do our first triathlon of the season tomorrow, so we shall see!
Dday -9/23/2012
Reconciled
Emotionalhell ( member #39902) posted at 1:06 AM on Sunday, August 11th, 2013
Exercise diffidently helps me.. A minimum of 60 minutes a day.
Me BS x2. 50ish Divorced WH #1. IHS with wayward #2 Dday #1 Oct. 2014Dday # 2 August 2018. Dday #3 December 17th.
Ariabook ( member #39669) posted at 6:16 AM on Sunday, August 11th, 2013
Thinking too much - That sounds like an awesome idea!!
I wish I could benefit from running, but I'm always on the verge of being underweight - dying to exercise but I don't want to look unhealthy!
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 7:45 AM on Sunday, August 11th, 2013
For people that don't have *running* on their brain (like me)....the title of your post has a whole different meaning...
(infidelity website....run, BS, run..... ya get my drift? It made ME laugh this morning...even if no one else noticed it....)
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
kickboxer ( member #39858) posted at 12:30 PM on Sunday, August 11th, 2013
I've never enjoyed running very much. I've tried...LAWD KNOWS I'VE TRIED!
But I do love kickboxing.
If you can't run, try a kickboxing class.
In the past 4 weeks, I've kickedboxed the shizz out of my husband's infidelity and his multiple OW.
BW - 42 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 15 years, 3 children
DD: 7/13/13
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.
myperfectlife ( member #39801) posted at 4:01 PM on Sunday, August 11th, 2013
I used to run quite a bit, but I found that sometimes it made me think TOO much about things I didn't want to think about.
Right now I know I am not eating enough to run the way I need to.
Instead, I get on the recumbant bike at the gym and read a good book that has NOTHING to do with infidelity. This way I can get my mind off things and truly escape and get exercise as well.
I am just at a point where this does not overwhelm my every waking moment.
Running is great, walking is great...but sometimes it's just too much to have all that thinking time!
I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13
ifinallyfoundme ( member #39523) posted at 5:02 PM on Sunday, August 11th, 2013
Put me in the kick boxing category 2. Also zumba for those abs. Love to run, but I've gotta watch my knees.
Tripletrouble ( member #39169) posted at 5:28 PM on Sunday, August 11th, 2013
I was actually in the final weeks of training for a tri when d day happened. In spite of being unable to eat, sleep, or complete a coherent thought, I continued to train. It saved me. Running still does. And biking. But swimming... That's just you and your thoughts and the bottom of pool. I find that difficult sometimes.
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
TheRealDeal ( member #39560) posted at 6:13 PM on Sunday, August 11th, 2013
Ran first 5K after DD3 - felt exhausted and awesome all at the same time!
I've run since then along with speed-walking or muscle conditioning nightly, yoga x3 week, strength training classes and am currently searching for local kickboxing classes. perhaps I'll get in touch with my angry side during kickboxing!
Just yesterday I discovered access to a paved bike path that is relatively close to home and I'll be putting my rollerblades to use again too.
due to all my activity and inability to eat much I've lost 25+lbs since June.
feeling good about myself physically. now if only the rest of me could catch up! to say I'm a changed person is certainly an understatement
Me (BS): 47 him (Xws): 55
together 18 years
DDay1, DDay2, Dday 3: March - June 2013
Dday4 + June 2015 through January 2016
Status: done I called it quits 1-6-2016
The hardest part of letting go is realizing there wasn't much left to hold on to
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