Anyway, then after birthdays there are so many holidays coming up, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year's and Valentine's Day; all of them fall in that six month period and I am scared that it will be extremely hard for me. Anyone have any advice? Or stories of their own?
"Forgiveness means giving up all hope of a better past."
We always do family photos with Santa. I have a picture of wh and our DS in line waiting.
That picture speaks volumes! It's written ALL over wh face...I don't even know how to explain what it looks like. It's just so hard to look at.
Yes, the first everything is hard. Brutally hard. But like the other person said, make new memories. It helps.
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I often wonder if I will ever not think about it. But...it's not something that brings me to tears or makes me see red anymore. Time does heal.
The trick is having a ws that understands that these firsts are hard on you and is supportive. Mine isn't. Not really. He acknowledged some things (like having to pick him up from work where both EA and PA happened). That was hard on me.
It's ok to think about it. It's ok to feel hurt. One day, event at a time.
Forgive yourself if you trigger, but don't go into it assuming it has to be bad. Plan what you will do if you do trigger (my H and I have a secret word)-- deep breathing, a mind clearing mantra, a favorite song or image. Then try to plow ahead.
My H and I shared my most romantic birthday ever this year. I had thoughts, but I kept my focus and had a wonderful day.