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tryingagain74 posted 8/10/2013 17:54 PM

Just a vent.

It's so awesome when the OW becomes the Owife. I am so grateful to have her in my life and in my kids' lives. Please don't be jealous of my extremely enviable situation. I mean, it's seriously better than winning the Powerball jackpot!

The kids are back from their week-long vacation, thankfully. I was getting dinner ready when I heard XWH's nerdmobile in the driveway. I looked out the window and saw her in the passenger's seat. Nice sunglasses, by the way; the 80s called and want that style returned to them. Anyway, her physical presence in my life is a first. She's been hiding from me up until this point. I wonder if she's now going to be so bold as to try to talk to me. Boy, I hope she's not that dumb.

I hardly ever bother to go outside because I want as much NC with XWH as possible, but if she ever shows up in my driveway again, I think I will. I'm not going to let her think that I was cowering in my house, afraid to see her. I walked outside briefly to get something I left in the driveway, and I kept my Mona-Lisa-bordering-on-smug smile on my face. I hope she got a good look, and I hope that condescension and superiority were oozing out of my every pore.

She and my XWH are truly despicable people. I'm usually okay with life these days, but it's little reminders like this that make me shake my head in amazement. He just happily substituted her into our family's lives, and they just came back from their happy little family trip that I went on for years. They just parked in my driveway like they were the nice neighbors dropping my kids off after a playdate. Talk about seriously effed up.

FaithFool posted 8/10/2013 17:57 PM

She's got some big balls, doesn't she?

I'd maybe moon her next time....

dmari posted 8/10/2013 18:44 PM

Small balls, no brain.

Good vent tryingagain71 ~ it is seriously effed up. I'm glad to read that this incident didn't trigger you.

inconnu posted 8/10/2013 19:12 PM

Ignore, ignore, ignore. She wants to get a reaction out of you, any reaction. Don't give her the satisfaction.

SBB posted 8/10/2013 21:53 PM

He just happily substituted her into our family's lives,

My view on this is OW gets the life I was going to live, my future.

The future of living with a lying, cheating, moody, passive-aggressive, anxiety ridden, self-loathing, immature, pathetic giant sack of shit.

You have won the Powerball Jackpot - you are rid of him.

I have yet to see OWUmpteen - I've known her for several years as she is his office gopher. He very kindly had me sit next to her through a colleagues wedding when I was 8m pregnant. Nice.

They are shameless because they have no self-respect. When she does dare to bare her face in my presence she is likely to get a big belly laugh out of me.

You in your dead whores getup (sorry, vintage) and your balding skinny/fat middle aged boyfriend look ridiculous on your own, together and hilarity ensues.

Housefulloflove posted 8/10/2013 23:32 PM

"The future of living with a lying, cheating, moody, passive-aggressive, anxiety ridden, self-loathing, immature, pathetic giant sack of shit."

Oh, I see you've met my ex!

OP, OW may act like she won the "prize" but now that she is the wife and no longer has the more appreciated (by him) role of OW she is probably starting to see clearly that being the wife of that jackass isn't all that she had hoped for. I wouldn't be surprised if she was hoping you would look like a downtrodden mess so that she could feel better about her life.

tesla posted 8/10/2013 23:47 PM

I just laugh when I see stripper whore in the car. Yup, get a good look at my house.
And of course there are the majority of the times when she is the one meeting me at the door when I pick Teslet up. Whatever. She won. Yippee.

Owifey needs to legitimize herself. That means riding shotgun and ghost writing his emails to you. .

Sparkles posted 8/11/2013 01:42 AM

The future of living with a lying, cheating, moody, passive-aggressive, anxiety ridden, self-loathing, immature, pathetic giant sack of shit.

I love this! Its been added to the 300 pages of word documents that I have accumulated in case I actually get to tell my asshat stbxh what I'm thinking..

gonnabe2016 posted 8/11/2013 01:58 AM

Nice sunglasses, by the way; the 80s called and want that style returned to them.

Fooled Me Twice posted 8/11/2013 06:05 AM

I'll likely be in the same position soon too - though they are not (yet) married. They did just buy a huge sfh together and she gets to ride around in his porsche and mercedes.

Whatever - same as you - its so nice to be free of the depressed, anxiety ridden, self loathing, verbally, and at times slightly physically abusive, lying, cheating pos - and as his own father called him on dday - inherently lazy, selfish and a bit schizophrenic. Really - she's 23 years old. She's got no idea what's she in for - ha ha ha!

[This message edited by Fooled Me Twice at 6:07 AM, August 11th (Sunday)]

homewrecked2011 posted 8/11/2013 09:27 AM

my atty said the day she comes in my driveway for pickup, I can put a No tresspass order on her.

I have yet to say 1 word to her, my former friend.

She doesn't have the honor of a conversation from me...

My PI says I should wave to her from the porch of the home I got and tell her thank you for working for to pay XH child support -- as what I get in child support is 2 weeks of her salary!!!!


Also,, I heard from a source that OW is miserable! She has the same (gasp) complaints about him that I did.

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 9:30 AM, August 11th (Sunday)]

sparkysable posted 8/11/2013 17:00 PM

It's so F'ed up. The whole situation, from start to finish, is F'ed up.

I can't wait until this "we just got married and we're all a happy family" high fades for them. Someone needs to fill the OW roll to fill that bottomless vacancy called his soul.

Hope she's got a keylogger on his laptop.

Ashland13 posted 8/11/2013 17:33 PM

It's terrible, the lack of boundaries and intrusion on the life of a person an OW/OM doesn't even know.

I have a friend who is a fellow BS and the OW there feels free to stroll around the property my friend lives in with their kids. She looks in the windows and at the gardens and my friend finds humor in shutting the shades or slamming a door if she sees the face anywhere.

I've seen this OW check me out if she's around and it makes me gag. So I treat her the same way.

We also ignore each other's ExH when they arrive for kid visits and it feels supportive and bothers them.

It's a shame but I like the healing words, too, Trying Again.

I've put the foot down and simply will not let OW on our property and will call the police if she arrives. I may not tell her I did, but I'm too early in the process to handle it. Nor will I meet her or give the time of day. I don't know how long I can keep it this way, but I commend you for the Mona Lisa smile.

suckstobeme posted 8/11/2013 20:33 PM

You know, once these OW start sniffing around and getting brave, I take it as a sign that they are feeling more and more threatened. Think about it, during the height of the
A, our WS made it real easy for them to feel secure. "Oh, poor me, my wife is crazy and bitchy and never shows me any love. I haven't been happy for so long. I can't believe that you came along to save me". Blah, blah, blah. If they actually leave, they give the OW an ultimate high and a feeling of total victory.

That shit wears off like everything else. When that happens, the OW likely has noticed the deficiencies in the WS. She realizes he definitely had/has faults and starts to think, "maybe it wasn't all her (a.k.s. BS). " Then the thoughts and memories of exactly the behavior of which he's capable come creeping in. At this point she is starting to see that she "won" something that really isn't winnable.

She's coming around because, like a dog, she feels the need to pee on what is now her temporary territory. Like typical WS behavior, I would have to say this is probably typical pig OW behavior.

Fuck her and fuck him. They are pathetic. I'm with Tesla. Sure, come on over, slunt. Take a good look around and let it soak in that you didn't steal the good parts of my life. You stole the shit. Now you can keep it.

tryingagain74 posted 8/11/2013 21:13 PM

You guys rock. You're all invited to my house for drinks, and we can all sit on my front porch and just stare at them the next time they pull in. Maybe then they'll just drop the kids up the block and speed away in his extremely unsexy minivan (nothing against minivans... just hilarious that Mr. Midlife Crisis has gotten even deeper into the staid, suburban life he professed to hate).

Vulcanized posted 8/12/2013 04:57 AM

Sure, come on over, slunt. Take a good look around and let it soak in that you didn't steal the good parts of my life. You stole the shit. Now you can keep it.


This!!! There it is. Pure golden truth, no unicorns farting rainbows & shitting gold bullion.

trebleclef posted 8/12/2013 06:38 AM

Sure, come on over, slunt. Take a good look around and let it soak in that you didn't steal the good parts of my life. You stole the shit. Now you can keep it.

I needed this thought today- thanks!
Need to remember she didn't take the good parts - she got the garbage. Yes.

Chrysalis123 posted 8/12/2013 07:56 AM

You're all invited to my house for drinks, and we can all sit on my front porch and just stare at them the next time they pull in

I love this visual. Next time I am having NPD-x troubles I am going to visualize all you doing this for me!

ideservebetter45 posted 8/12/2013 14:37 PM

I told my ex a$$hole to never bring her in my drive way again or I was calling the police.This is exactly what she said to me when I first learned of her affair with my ex and I tried to talk to her.BITCH

SBB posted 8/12/2013 16:47 PM

Sure, come on over, slunt. Take a good look around and let it soak in that you didn't steal the good parts of my life. You stole the shit. Now you can keep it.

Ha! So true!

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