The report was obviously annoyomous, but she's the only one new in our lives, and she's a bitter woman who got screwed out of our money when we left.
The DCS lady was quite upset that she had to use her saturday morning to visit us, since as soon as she walked in she said she knew this would be an unfounded claim, but alas, we had to answer all the embarassing uncomfortable questions.
Then she had to take pictures of everything, our food (since a claim was made that we didnt have enough food), our knife block (since there's accessable knives), our gun safe (which the DCS lady was quite impressed with and asked us for more info since she herself has a few fire arms), and their rooms - thats SOP.
I on the other hand, had not sent the letter to them that I had penned because lets face it....i was over the 100 dollars and the toys, so whatever, no big deal.
Except now, she wasted our time, she wasted the poor DCS workers time, and worse then that....this report could have taken the time up of some REAL kid, with REAL issues that they needed to REALLY look into...and that is what REALLY pisses me off.
So, now i am just going to get my letter in order, to send to the Family and Social Services Administration, to report on the crappiness of her child care behavior, and quite possibly the IRS since she is now refusing to give me her information to get the child care credit that we need. I bet the IRS will just love to know that she's been in day care for about 10 years and probably never reported her income.
She asked how the center could help me and I told them if they could not give me the $3 million it will cost to care for my son for his whole life, then they are never to contact me again. They never have.
So... I know how you feel.
I always fear this sort of backlash from the IL's... Not that they would find anything wrong. But it still scares Me
Now, not only are fucking around with my family, but some other kids that really need it.
Stupid people like this should not be allowed to BREED!
Once by a guidiance councelar who was supposed to help my then 4 yr old (who was speech delayed) not to hit. There was an accident at home where a small amount of oatmeal splattered on his leg and my son said I threw out his toys. I didnt but if he doesnt clean up, thats my perogative. Nowhere in the parent handbook does it state a parent must supply toys.
I was told by another school personnel that this guidance councelar is dyfus happy. She calls for everything and anything.
The other was dd had a swollen eye by a bug bite. The person told dyfus my son caused the injury.
Where I live people reguarly use dyfus as a fighting/revenge tool.
The second dyfus worker told me he would prefer 10 bogus calls to one real call.
I know how infuriating and emotionally taxing those visits are.
((Hugs))
Finally fealing peace.
Beep, beep!
Let Karma, bitch that she is, slap her with all of her might!
Through my 'SKILLZ' I found their previous addresses, I already knew where her husband worked, and I know her full name thanks to a ticket she got (thank you public records!)
At this point, I really don't care if she gets nailed for unpaid income, just having to go through an audit would be worth my troubles to me
FSSA says that I need to send my letter to the CPS division, so that will go out by the end of the week.
Personally I hope that I get to drive the bus here, but I have a feeling that her temper will make her drive it over herself.
I may not be scrappy, but I am a paper whore who can pretty much get what I want in an intellectual way
The teenager in me wants to TP and Egg her house, and put balogna on her car!
So...SI, can you read my letter and tell me if it's worth it?
When we first started with the baby sitter, things seemed to be fine. The house is very well kept and they seemed very nice. The only thing that made my gut tell me to pause was the yelling I heard from inside when I walked up to interview with her. She has 3 teenage children, so I chalked it up to a bad day with teenagers since while we were talking she was quite pleasant. After a while though, my son started saying that he didn't want to go over there at all, and it became a fight to get him to the sitter in the mornings. He would ask to go back to the sitter’s that he was at before every single morning. I noticed that he would get very angry, he started hitting my daughter a lot and hitting other things like the dogs, his mattress, and pillows, and he would yell all the time. He started to talk back very forcefully, not like a normal 4 year old finding some independence. He said that the sitter yelled at him a lot, and yells at sissy too. He never said that she hit him, and he doesn’t flinch or shy away, but he turned inward more and more the longer he was with her. It was little things that would happen that added up that made me remove them. 1. I picked up my children from Sitter’s daughter’s doctor's office. It was on my home from work and asked if I needed to leave the car seats. She said no that she had extras in the garage (since she stated that she has been a sitter for 10 years, I did not find this odd). When I picked up my kids, my son was in the third row of the van not in a car seat; her own son who is 5 was also in the third row, not in a car seat. Only my daughter was in a car seat and it was obviously meant for her son's size. I told her that it was unacceptable. I told her that she is never to travel with my kids again. After that I was never told if they left, but every once in a while, my son would say 'we went to the park', their housing addition does not have a park. 2. Her husband smokes in the house with the kids around. This didn't happen right away, only when his work hours changed. We did not have a babysitter to move to at the time. He did start smoking on the porch in the mornings, however, during the afternoons when you would walk in, it was very smoky. 3. She relies on her oldest daughter for help with the kids. She is 16 and during the summer I saw her interact more with the kids then Sitter did. I think that is why she thought she could have more kids, because her daughters would help, but the 16 year old more than the younger one. 4. She would turn off her phones, or change her phone numbers without giving me the new information. One day every number I called was disconnected and I needed to talk to her. When I got to her house she stated that they turned them off because they did not want her mother in law at her son's graduation or party, and that they got a new home phone the day before and she didn't know the number. When I asked for it, she just stood and looked at me. I told her that I have to have a way to contact her now. She finally looked up the new number and gave it to me. 5. I do not believe that she was providing adequate food or drinks for all the kids. Both of my kids would come home starving and thirsty. I would have to make them food before our regular dinners because they would literally break down at home until I fed them. My son would tell me that his tummy hurt he was so hungry. Later when I left, she stated that I should have given her snacks for the kids and lunches. This was not part of our agreement at all when I started there. I would have gladly provided extra food had I known that my kids were not getting enough to eat at her house. 6. They would play outside almost all day, not really an issue for my kids, except that she would never put sunscreen on them throughout the day. My kids would come home with red noses, ears, and shoulders pretty consistently. I provided her with an Aveeno sunscreen bottle, very distinctive smell, and never once did they come home smelling like it. 7. There was no set place for the kids to nap or time for that matter. I asked her repeatedly to have my daughter nap as my son usually did not. When I first started with her, I gave her the pack and play that we had for my daughter so that she would have her own area to sleep. She gave it back to me filthy from another child’s mess saying that she did not need them anymore as my daughter was not napping. I asked her if she was even trying and she said that she was. Many times when I would pick them up, my son would be sleeping in the middle of the floor where there was traffic. They would step over him or around him, I would ask why she wouldn’t just put him up on the couch. 8. If they were not sleeping inside, then she would be waiting for me outside on the front porch, and allow my kids to run up to the car as I was driving in. Again, I asked her to at least hold on to them, and she would just laugh it off. 9. She would never report injuries to me or issues. My son told me that he fell down her stairs (she since got a baby gate for it), but she never told me. When I asked her about it, she said 'oh yeah that, well, he was ok so I didn't think I needed to tell you". She had a cat that scratched my kids' arms up pretty badly at times, but she finally got rid of the cat. She wouldn't pick up the dog poop in the back yard where the kids would play and they would come home with poop on their shoes sometimes. There is no structure at the house, there is no plan. The new sitter that they are at now, the kids are completely different kids. They come home all smiles and laughs, my son has come back out from his quietness that he got from being at the Sitter’s. There is something going on at that house that is not outwardly seen. Her kids all have chores, so the house is very clean and picked up, I don't believe that there is any physical abuse, but I would not be surprised if she is yelling and verbally abusing the kids at all. My bright outgoing son turned to a sulking, angry, frustrated kid in the weeks that he was there. My daughter seems to take a little more in stride, but she doesn’t communicate like my son can. Sorry this is so long. I just really don't want other people to send their kids there thinking that her lower rate is worth it. I can't even claim the child care credit with her because she refused to give me her SSN when I left. I gave her 1900, the 18 weeks that I was there and we can't claim that now.
After a while though, my son started saying that he didn't want to go over there at all, and it became a fight to get him to the sitter in the mornings. He would ask to go back to the sitter’s that he was at before every single morning.
I noticed that he would get very angry, he started hitting my daughter a lot and hitting other things like the dogs, his mattress, and pillows, and he would yell all the time. He started to talk back very forcefully, not like a normal 4 year old finding some independence. He said that the sitter yelled at him a lot, and yells at sissy too. He never said that she hit him, and he doesn’t flinch or shy away, but he turned inward more and more the longer he was with her.
It was little things that would happen that added up that made me remove them.
1. I picked up my children from Sitter’s daughter’s doctor's office. It was on my home from work and asked if I needed to leave the car seats. She said no that she had extras in the garage (since she stated that she has been a sitter for 10 years, I did not find this odd). When I picked up my kids, my son was in the third row of the van not in a car seat; her own son who is 5 was also in the third row, not in a car seat. Only my daughter was in a car seat and it was obviously meant for her son's size. I told her that it was unacceptable. I told her that she is never to travel with my kids again. After that I was never told if they left, but every once in a while, my son would say 'we went to the park', their housing addition does not have a park.
2. Her husband smokes in the house with the kids around. This didn't happen right away, only when his work hours changed. We did not have a babysitter to move to at the time. He did start smoking on the porch in the mornings, however, during the afternoons when you would walk in, it was very smoky.
3. She relies on her oldest daughter for help with the kids. She is 16 and during the summer I saw her interact more with the kids then Sitter did. I think that is why she thought she could have more kids, because her daughters would help, but the 16 year old more than the younger one.
4. She would turn off her phones, or change her phone numbers without giving me the new information. One day every number I called was disconnected and I needed to talk to her. When I got to her house she stated that they turned them off because they did not want her mother in law at her son's graduation or party, and that they got a new home phone the day before and she didn't know the number. When I asked for it, she just stood and looked at me. I told her that I have to have a way to contact her now. She finally looked up the new number and gave it to me.
5. I do not believe that she was providing adequate food or drinks for all the kids. Both of my kids would come home starving and thirsty. I would have to make them food before our regular dinners because they would literally break down at home until I fed them. My son would tell me that his tummy hurt he was so hungry. Later when I left, she stated that I should have given her snacks for the kids and lunches. This was not part of our agreement at all when I started there. I would have gladly provided extra food had I known that my kids were not getting enough to eat at her house.
6. They would play outside almost all day, not really an issue for my kids, except that she would never put sunscreen on them throughout the day. My kids would come home with red noses, ears, and shoulders pretty consistently. I provided her with an Aveeno sunscreen bottle, very distinctive smell, and never once did they come home smelling like it.
7. There was no set place for the kids to nap or time for that matter. I asked her repeatedly to have my daughter nap as my son usually did not. When I first started with her, I gave her the pack and play that we had for my daughter so that she would have her own area to sleep. She gave it back to me filthy from another child’s mess saying that she did not need them anymore as my daughter was not napping. I asked her if she was even trying and she said that she was. Many times when I would pick them up, my son would be sleeping in the middle of the floor where there was traffic. They would step over him or around him, I would ask why she wouldn’t just put him up on the couch.
8. If they were not sleeping inside, then she would be waiting for me outside on the front porch, and allow my kids to run up to the car as I was driving in. Again, I asked her to at least hold on to them, and she would just laugh it off.
9. She would never report injuries to me or issues. My son told me that he fell down her stairs (she since got a baby gate for it), but she never told me. When I asked her about it, she said 'oh yeah that, well, he was ok so I didn't think I needed to tell you". She had a cat that scratched my kids' arms up pretty badly at times, but she finally got rid of the cat. She wouldn't pick up the dog poop in the back yard where the kids would play and they would come home with poop on their shoes sometimes.
There is no structure at the house, there is no plan.
The new sitter that they are at now, the kids are completely different kids. They come home all smiles and laughs, my son has come back out from his quietness that he got from being at the Sitter’s.
There is something going on at that house that is not outwardly seen. Her kids all have chores, so the house is very clean and picked up, I don't believe that there is any physical abuse, but I would not be surprised if she is yelling and verbally abusing the kids at all. My bright outgoing son turned to a sulking, angry, frustrated kid in the weeks that he was there. My daughter seems to take a little more in stride, but she doesn’t communicate like my son can.
Sorry this is so long. I just really don't want other people to send their kids there thinking that her lower rate is worth it. I can't even claim the child care credit with her because she refused to give me her SSN when I left. I gave her 1900, the 18 weeks that I was there and we can't claim that now.
It is what it is.
