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User Topic: He just doesn't get it
♀ 38474
Member # 38474
Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, August 10th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why is he so thick? What is so hard to understand?

Today started out to be a pretty good day. We got outside and did something as a family. Nice. The A was not really on my mind during our outing.

We get home and I go outside with our DD while WH is inside. I come in the house to get the camera and WH is on the computer setting up a Twitter account. FYI, a lot of communicating between WH and OW was on twitter and my most recent discovery (3 weeks ago) that the A was still going on over the last 6 months when I thought we were trying to R, was by finding his secret twitter account.

When I asked what he was doing he said he was setting up a new twitter account and asked if I was OK with that. I told him I was uncomfortable with that and he said fine. I asked him how he thought that I would be OK with it and he mentions a convo that I do not recall that I said it would be all right. I asked if that was before or after the most recent discovery and he said before. Well, obviously I must have been starting to trust him but look where that got me.

Anyway, he ended up getting mad at me because I went to the bedroom to read while he watched tv and it was supertime. Then he complained that he doesn't get to feel angry or anything besides happy or sorry now. And then he had the nerve to complain that I couldn't even go out yesterday to buy a few grocery items we needed. I spent the day in bed mostly because I felt so weary and depressed.

Now we are not talking.

Me - BS Him - WH (in our 40's)
Together 23 years/ 1 young child
D-day - Jan 24/13 He confessed
Broken NC -Feb 7-22,Feb 28,March 6 Continued Contact up to July 16
D-Day again -July 19/13 FALSE R!
D-DAY #?- Dec 17/14 broken NC for 6 months a

Posts: 164 | Registered: Feb 2013
♀ 10468
Member # 10468
Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, August 10th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry. He is sending red flags.
Be vigilant.

Big hugs.

Ddays 2004 & 2007
I cut my losses mid 2013
Feeling happier every day :)

Posts: 6737 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Florida
♀ 30396
Member # 30396
Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, August 10th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sorry. You have every right to be upset. He knows that, he is trying to blameshift to you. Don't let him, you need to keep your boundaries tight. Take care of yourself.

Me-54 BS
Him 61-WS
Married 34 yrs, together 37
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1962 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
♀ 39667
Member # 39667
Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, August 10th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry but it might be time to ask him to move out.

He's acting like a pouty teenager who was grounded for bad grades or something. He's rebelling against you. Was he rebellious against his parents or teachers when he was a youth?

I make this assumptions because my SAWH was acting like this, too, well past D-Day and cutting off contact with the AP.

BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

Posts: 932 | Registered: Jun 2013
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