Thanks for he responses. We had been communicating about every 3 months as a check in, but I had never met him or her face to face.
I talked a little with him and let him vent about where they are currently. And told him how sorry I was that he found himself in that position again.
The thing is...I cannot relate as my husband has been very good and works hard at making it up to me. She on the other hand won't ever get to that place with him.
He is very angry with her right now. And my gut says he is out for revenge on her and the bonus would be revenge on my husband. I have made it clear that I am not willing to cross that line with him or anyone else.
I did tell him to say hi to his wife for me. He asked if I was going to tell my husband he stopped in and I said yes. And I did tell my husband this morning.
Any other thoughts?