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Do I really want to live this way?

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 Completelybroken (original poster member #40051) posted at 10:53 AM on Sunday, August 11th, 2013

My daughter (4) and I are spending the weekend with my family. WH and son (20 months) are home. I told my H how nervous i was to leave. He assured me again how his A was " the biggest mistake of his life" and reminded my again its been 4-5 years since it happened. ( I JFO about a month ago)

Since I left on Friday he sends me pics of him with DS and made sure to facetime twice so i would know for sure he was home. Those things make me feel better but Im pissed that I need those things to make me feel better. How long will I have to feel this way? Do I want to deal with feeling this way? Will I have to have him prove where he is and constantly worry for the rest of my life?!! This sucks.

Me-BS 35
Him-FWH 40
Dday-7-6-13
EA-1yr
PA sex 3-4times over three months during the EA

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kickboxer ( member #39858) posted at 1:29 PM on Sunday, August 11th, 2013

I'm about a month out as well.

I don't know the answers, but can assure you I have the same questions.

I look at our family. Our life. Everything we've been through...and I tell myself it's worth the fight.

But am I strong enough?

BW - 42 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 15 years, 3 children
DD: 7/13/13
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.

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AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 1:30 PM on Sunday, August 11th, 2013

He should want to prove it to you. It should be on his shoulders not yours. For us it took a while to get there though. Now my fWS still takes pictures when she arrives and leaves anywhere she goes. I haven't looked at them in months.

It does get easier with time an effort on both sides.

BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"

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