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Nicnac posted 8/11/2013 05:50 AM

This post:

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=324250

May have saved my marriage! I printed it out and left it on the counter for my WH. After the day we had had I didn't think he was ready to do what he needed to do and did not think he'd read it. He got home from work, ask me what it was and immediately sat down and read through the entire thing. All 10 pages of it!

When he was done he looked at me with misty eyes and asked "do you think I don't already know all this?" I told him no, that I didn't think he was ready.

Since that moment he has been absolutely wonderful. He has done everything the "packet", as he calls it, has said to do. He understands.

I hope this lasts and is not a false R. I am hopeful, but weary.

AFrayedKnot posted 8/11/2013 06:02 AM

That post changed the direction of our R too. I am so grateful to SI and the amazing people here.

A great follow up to that was the book "How to help my spouse heal from my affair."

I hope your journey continues down the path of healing.

Nicnac posted 8/11/2013 07:21 AM

I'm glad i found it when I did, sooner rather than later. I had just hit the reality stage and was just sad and crying all the time. This has made so much difference.

I think my WH may have understood and felt remorse but didn't know what to do or how to show it. He is acting like the man I married again. I hope this lasts!

I think they need to post this in the articles of the healing library: "you cheated, now what?"