someone will come along with more experience here. I will tell you that in these types of situations, you can expect primary or sole physical custody and it means that he will likely have more financial responsibilities in terms of child care. These are all details you negotiate with your attorney.
I'm sorry that you're here.
"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid
One thing I would put in the agreement would be that "visitation" would not happen when he was not present. I found out that after he moved in with Twat-Waffle that he would insist on the kids being there for "visitation" when he was out of town. This I had real issues with--they were not married and I felt that if he was not going to be present, they would be with their PARENT.
I assume since he has always traveled, you have the kind of flexibility you need to deal with that?
Also, XWH demanded he have the first right of refusal if I had to work more than 4 hours, he got the children. OOPS,, he didn't realize it worked the other way, too. So, when he went to work and left child with OW, he had to go and get my child, as I am worried sick she is going to harm my children.
Also I learned anything basically is OK as long as you both agree. So try to think of what works best for you... You won't have set dates, except possibly holidays. And if your children are young and you want them for Halloween, be sure to add this holiday.
me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Work from the basic concept that children need consistency and predictability, not visits at the convenience of a parent who travels 80% of the time.
My exH works out of province three weeks out of the month, so DS lives with me 100% of the time.
Rather than try to stick to our origional agreement which was he got DS every second weekend and access during the week, we just left it wide open for him to do what he wants with DS while he is home. Unless I had something planned I try to keep that week free and open for DS and his dad. He is also entitled to two weeks over the summer should he choose, but for the most part he can't.
He has indicated he wants to take him this march break, which works for me.
He has been good at calling in advance and asking if we had any plans and then letting me know what he wants to do. It has been very successful.
If you are both open to working together to make things work smoothly for your child or children then it can be done. I hope you find what works for you.