Its been one year since DD. My BS was not transparent or honest about anything. Anything I know now, I had to find everything out. Him and his family also tried to blame me for his behavior; I was a bad wife, had an emotional affair, verbally abused him, caused him to do those things.
Even after DD, he continued to do those things (exotic massage parlors, live web cam to web cam sex, and taking trips to vegas). He just opened a hidden credit card and charged these things on it after DD. Then he painted a perfect picture to my family and his family that he became such a good person and has not done any of these things after DD. I found out about the hidden credit card in March.
Now he is claiming that he was molested when he was younger, got help through sex addiction group and has gotten better. I cannot believe him anymore. I really don't see the sincerity. I do not think he has really changed and there is no way of knowing.
Why is he continuing to bug me for another chance. My divorce is in process and he still is continuing to harrass me about making it work.
I would never want to make it work after the way him and his family treated me. I also do not want to put myself in that situation again. I have one child in my 30's.
Any suggestions on how to get him to stop bugging me about reconciliation? We have a child so I have to communicate with him on an on going basis.