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daisyrunner posted 8/11/2013 19:23 PM

awhile back i caught my b/f then chatting with a girl on a porn site. I moved out, but eventually we worked threw it, or so i thought, and i went back. Soon after we got married. About a month after the wedding a gut feeling told me to check it out. So i come to find not only did he go back to "chatting" with the same girl from the site that it had actually been going on for about a year and half before i moved out last time. He had spent upwards of $20,000 on this girl threw the website and chatted with her while he was at work and skyped with her who knows how many times. I saw a few of the chats from the website & skype & they were not innocent friend like chats. He was telling her he wanted to bring her home....sending her kisses....saying he by all rights met someone that should be "the" one but is only happy until he thinks of her. Now he is telling me the same crap he did last time to get me back and says he's sorry and will never do it again (just like last time) I have again moved out & been seeing a counselor but feel so lost & confused. How could he do this? I stayed for about 6 months after finding this out again & every time i tried to talk bout it his ans was "i can't change the past" "your making way more out of it then it was" "im not living like this, get over it or get out" So I got out. I really am hoping to find someone that is going threw sorta the same thing.

sparklezombie posted 8/11/2013 19:26 PM

Yeah I've gone through something similar. Wh and I have separated 2x and he's cheated more times than I know. I am now planning to leave again. I suggest leaving and you should go to ic. If you stay he must be remorseful and go to counseling. Otherwise I don't see how it would work.

daisyrunner posted 8/11/2013 19:43 PM

He says he is remorseful but he is telling mye all the things he said the last time to get me back. I do still care for him but he has hurt me so much the only feelings i have right now is hate towards him. Every "excuse" he tells me all I can bring myself to say to him is "you should have thought about that" How did you get threw it? I am struggling so much with it