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EZ4U (original poster new member #37703) posted at 3:35 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
So divorced a year and still talk to ex FIL and ex SIL. I had begged them to do an intervention with the bipolar ex prior to our divorce but they only gave the thought lip service w no action. Divorce happened and we all went our separate ways.
Now Ex SIL is pregnant, wants to do Thanksgiving holiday at my house "so you can see the baby" and thinks I want to put her family and father up for the week,cook and conveniently babysit while they go to a college football game that Friday (her Real motivation for coming my way).
Well,I kindly informed her I didn't know what her brothers plans were but we held separate holidays now. She complained there was no room at his apt and nowhere to cook (or trust him to babysit during the football game). Too bad, so sad honey. My days of trying to please the in laws are OVER! Brothers negative actions effect you now too. The house close to Disney and your old college is closed to visitors and the maid quit.
"I shall Forgive and Forget.
Forgive myself for being stupid and Forget about you."
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 3:48 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 4:02 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
Bravo!
This is not something I'll ever have to worry about- his "family" never once came to our home once we moved out of state. (Aside from his NPD cheater father, and if I never see that bastard again it will be too soon).
Good for you!
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 4:11 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
LOVE IT!
It's not your problem any more, you are free from that.
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 5:05 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
Doesn't it feel good to use that personal power you've been working on ?
Love this !
She has an entitled nerve to even ask ! 
[This message edited by gma56 at 11:44 PM, August 11th (Sunday)]
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
sadsmile ( member #16658) posted at 5:30 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
Good on you! 
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 10:31 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 11:43 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
I bet it feels AWESOME!!
I can't believe the cheek!
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 12:00 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
You did good
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
EZ4U (original poster new member #37703) posted at 12:29 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
Hee! She was all "I just thought everyone would want to see the baby"...
Want to see her first child ,kiss him and send him back to momma- sure. But babysit on my days off while you and hubby go to the big FSU/UF game, pay tons for holiday groceries, cook for hours while u guys go out shopping, pick up after the FIL while he ignores my presence and watch the EX eat, burp and declare what " friends" we are then go home to pork his latest girlfriend? - NO!
Little miss entitled is gonna have to learn mommies don't always get to go out for fun without baby overnight. Babysitters are expensive and not always available, cook your own damn turkey, and clean up your own smelly messes. I am goin Holiday Friday shopping, I will have a pleasant dinner with my parents and son who will help me clean up afterwards, and I will watch football on the couch and take a nap all I want afterwards too. Whoop whoop!
"I shall Forgive and Forget.
Forgive myself for being stupid and Forget about you."
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