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heartbroken_kk posted 8/11/2013 23:17 PM

STBXWHNPDPAFTG sent me some texts last night. One was "16 years ago tonight?" meaning that our first date was 16 years ago. The other was "I'm out on the porch thinking of both the expanse and the shortness of time. You?"

OK, so first of all, kudos to me for my reactions. Initially, it was basically I think, that possibly I have achieved indifference. He got crickets, and it wasn't even difficult. The messages came in at 10:30 at night, and I even slept just fine.

Today, I notified him I would be stopping by his place to pick up some items he had stored for a non-profit we are mutually involved in. He responds inviting me to dinner, his treat. At a restaurant I've been at with him, in tears. Where I've left after throwing my napkin in his face and walked 2 miles home. It's not a great place for me. But he likes it! I told him I ate already.

I'm healing people. It may be technically our anniversary. The perseid meteor showers - OK, so what if our first date was stargazing, and we commemorated it by exchanging vows 3 years later. Whatever. I don't know if I will even bother looking up.

I am looking forward to meeting him in court however. My sister bought me a six-pack of Alimony Ale. I'm saving some.

[This message edited by heartbroken_kk at 11:18 PM, August 11th (Sunday)]

click4it posted 8/11/2013 23:22 PM


...what does THAT stand for?

I love your reaction to his love love it.

Glad you are able to see past his BS. And so glad you aren't going to dinner with him!

gma56 posted 8/11/2013 23:48 PM

Anniversary dinner ?

Yes court will be soon enough to spend time with him.
Alimony Ale sounds wonderful!

PurpleRose posted 8/11/2013 23:52 PM

Wait- you have Alimony Ale? Where did you find that?

HurtsButImOK posted 8/12/2013 00:08 AM


...what does THAT stand for?

is it wrong that it made perfect sense to me

ETA - yay for indifference and healing!!

[This message edited by HurtsButImOK at 12:12 AM, August 12th (Monday)]

MyReturn2Me posted 8/12/2013 00:56 AM


Soon to be ex wayward husband ,narcissistic personality disordered, passive aggressive FUCK THAT GUY ~ LOL Am I close??

click4it posted 8/12/2013 01:06 AM

lmao!! I guess that must be it!!!

gonnabe2016 posted 8/12/2013 01:28 AM


So please provide a translation for us 'stupid' folk.
I followed this acronym along until I reached tha AFTG point.
(does AFTG = "And fuck that guy" or wht?

SBB posted 8/12/2013 06:03 AM

There are no fish in this pond.

This pond has no water.

Fuck Off.

confused615 posted 8/12/2013 06:12 AM

SoonToBeXWaywardHusband NarcissisticPersonalityDisorderPassiveAgressiveFuckThatGuy!

trebleclef posted 8/12/2013 06:27 AM

Good for you!
And - yes! I interpreted that acronym right off lol!

ButterflyGirl posted 8/12/2013 09:14 AM

Is it bad I knew what it meant right away too?

What SBB said. There are no fish in this pond. This pond has no water. Fuck off!!

And yeah for indifference! You go girl.

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 9:27 AM, August 12th (Monday)]

heartbroken_kk posted 8/12/2013 09:20 AM

You all guessed right! I thought it was pretty easy to parse....

Its been foggy (literally) overnight here for weeks. This morning I woke up to a lovely sunrise instead of gray gloom

EvenKeel posted 8/12/2013 10:46 AM

I have seen this on SI a few times....where an EX wants to have dinner on the anniversary.

If mine ever asks, I am going to counter the offer with:

"Sorry, I am not available. However, if you would like to get together on July 27th to recite our divorce decree....I am all in!"

homewrecked2011 posted 8/12/2013 10:51 AM

You are my hero!

I feel myself moving quickly now to the place of-- I don't give a damn -- and honestly it feels great!!!

heartbroken_kk posted 8/12/2013 11:35 AM

Alimony Ale is from a brewery here in Hayward, East Bay Area. Buffalo Bill's

nowiknow23 posted 8/12/2013 11:50 AM

There are no fish in this pond.

This pond has no water.

Fuck Off.

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