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User Topic: Gloating
click4it
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Member # 209
Default  Posted: 1:02 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As my ex-h dropped off the boys tonight, I casually gloated that I quit smoking. I thought I would get to gloat and stick my tongue out and say "HA TOP THAT!"

Nope, instead he TOPPED ME.

He said "oh, I did too a few months ago."

My childish excitement of gloating went straight down the tubes.

Dammit couldn't I have had that moment after 12 years to TOP him for a change?

Ah well, at least our boys both have smoke free parents now. That's what really matters.

My older son said "mom its VERY strange that you both quit around the exact same time after 12 years." I said yeah that is weird.

And YEAH it is weird, but it doesn't surprise me...ok here I go threadjacking my own thread...

As I've said before many times, we did not have a bad marriage, there was hardly anything incompatible. We liked the same things and usually made changes around the same time. Because of this, I always felt we were fated to be together (when we were together, not now). We always seemed to be in sync. We'd lose weight at the same time, gain weight, think the same, etc. And then we he left, we both started smoking. Only difference was he never really smoked before.

Anyway, just thought I'd share my attempted gloating for the night.

Edited for numerous typing errors.

[This message edited by click4it at 1:03 AM, August 12th (Monday)]


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 1:52 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ah, you can still gloat!

And congrats on quitting!


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2529 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
click4it
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Member # 209
Default  Posted: 1:55 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 2:20 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't let him take away or negate YOUR hard work. Gloat away.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5742 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
click4it
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Member # 209
Default  Posted: 2:25 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thanks. I'm not letting him take it away, I'm just mad that I didn't do it first! I wanted to show that I am better than him in this regard...like na na...but really I am "better" than him in so many respects...


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
SBB
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Default  Posted: 5:58 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Its not who wins the battle, its who wins the war.

He doesn't deserve any of your good news. Share it with someone worthy.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5733 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

but really I am "better" than him in so many respects..
Um, duh!


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26476 | Registered: Aug 2011
click4it
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Member # 209
Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

strong-it was more of a gloating announcement rather than sharing with him. I could care less if he approved. I just wanted to selfishly gloat, but that attempt failed.

NIK - ty

[This message edited by click4it at 2:54 PM, August 12th (Monday)]


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
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