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summerain posted 8/12/2013 01:33 AM

As some may know, my wh pictures girls naked, having sex w/ them. He thinks infidelity is something he's really drawn too.

He's lied about it, gotten depressed about it, confessed to his IC about it (minimising of course)

These girls can be anyone. He got very distressed telling me once it was his very attractive cousin.

This does nothing for my confidence.

Is this ongoing infidelity?

AFrayedKnot posted 8/12/2013 06:48 AM

I think that his ability to be honest about it is a good start. As he becomes more willing to be open with his IC it is something that can be worked on.

There is a big difference between thoughts and actions but it is a very slippery slope.

Kelany posted 8/12/2013 08:07 AM

It sounds like my husband when he describes his sex addiction and his compulsive thoughts.

ifinallyfoundme posted 8/12/2013 08:08 AM

According to my religious beliefs, it is. Sin is sin. His isn't any more special, we all have to practice self control.

lost_in_toronto posted 8/12/2013 08:27 AM

I was going to say, it sounds like sex addiction - Sam beat me to it.

Has he been assessed for sexual addiction by his IC?

summerain posted 8/12/2013 17:51 PM

no assessment for SA, as apparently he never had sex with anyone. His IC is worried about them, I had a meeting with the two of them. This is when he confessed about it.

But honestly, it's starting to really kill any hope for the future for me. I think I will definitely have to re-evaluate our relationship after I graduate university.

Kelany posted 8/12/2013 22:11 PM

Sex addicts don't always use sex to act out. Some ns ef due, but the behavior will escalate. Its addiction, they need more and more.