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User Topic: Ongoing infidelity?
summerain
♀ 37439
Member # 37439
Default  Posted: 1:33 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As some may know, my wh pictures girls naked, having sex w/ them. He thinks infidelity is something he's really drawn too.

He's lied about it, gotten depressed about it, confessed to his IC about it (minimising of course)

These girls can be anyone. He got very distressed telling me once it was his very attractive cousin.

This does nothing for my confidence.

Is this ongoing infidelity?


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

Posts: 818 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Australia
AFrayedKnot
♂ 36622
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 6:48 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think that his ability to be honest about it is a good start. As he becomes more willing to be open with his IC it is something that can be worked on.

There is a big difference between thoughts and actions but it is a very slippery slope.


BS 40
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2691 | Registered: Aug 2012
Kelany
♀ 34755
Member # 34755
Default  Posted: 8:07 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It sounds like my husband when he describes his sex addiction and his compulsive thoughts.


BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking


Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
ifinallyfoundme
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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

According to my religious beliefs, it is. Sin is sin. His isn't any more special, we all have to practice self control.

Posts: 180 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: United States
lost_in_toronto
♀ 25395
Member # 25395
Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was going to say, it sounds like sex addiction - Sam beat me to it.

Has he been assessed for sexual addiction by his IC?


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

Posts: 1714 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: not toronto anymore
summerain
♀ 37439
Member # 37439
Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

no assessment for SA, as apparently he never had sex with anyone. His IC is worried about them, I had a meeting with the two of them. This is when he confessed about it.

But honestly, it's starting to really kill any hope for the future for me. I think I will definitely have to re-evaluate our relationship after I graduate university.


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

Posts: 818 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Australia
Kelany
♀ 34755
Member # 34755
Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sex addicts don't always use sex to act out. Some ns ef due, but the behavior will escalate. Its addiction, they need more and more.


BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking


Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
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