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summerain (original poster member #37439) posted at 7:33 AM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
As some may know, my wh pictures girls naked, having sex w/ them. He thinks infidelity is something he's really drawn too.
He's lied about it, gotten depressed about it, confessed to his IC about it (minimising of course)
These girls can be anyone. He got very distressed telling me once it was his very attractive cousin.
This does nothing for my confidence.
Is this ongoing infidelity?
OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 12:48 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
I think that his ability to be honest about it is a good start. As he becomes more willing to be open with his IC it is something that can be worked on.
There is a big difference between thoughts and actions but it is a very slippery slope.
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
Kelany ( member #34755) posted at 2:07 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
It sounds like my husband when he describes his sex addiction and his compulsive thoughts.
BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12
Former 80s Icon wishful thinking
ifinallyfoundme ( member #39523) posted at 2:08 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
According to my religious beliefs, it is. Sin is sin. His isn't any more special, we all have to practice self control.
lost_in_toronto ( member #25395) posted at 2:27 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
I was going to say, it sounds like sex addiction - Sam beat me to it.
Has he been assessed for sexual addiction by his IC?
Me: BS/48
Him: WS/46
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 23 years.
Reconciled.
summerain (original poster member #37439) posted at 11:51 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
no assessment for SA, as apparently he never had sex with anyone. His IC is worried about them, I had a meeting with the two of them. This is when he confessed about it.
But honestly, it's starting to really kill any hope for the future for me. I think I will definitely have to re-evaluate our relationship after I graduate university.
OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.
Kelany ( member #34755) posted at 4:11 AM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Sex addicts don't always use sex to act out. Some ns ef due, but the behavior will escalate. Its addiction, they need more and more.
BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12
Former 80s Icon wishful thinking
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