Member # 38162
| Posted: 2:15 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013|
I am feeling awed by my fWH's capacity for growth. He suppressed and denied his horrible childhood for 44 years. Whenever it leaked out of containment, he was paralyzed with pain and fear. Yet, since d-day he has systematically faced the abuse, waded through the muck of it, and addressed the damage it caused inside him.
He is consistently owning what he did, examining the ugliness in his past, and changing his thought patterns. Basically, he is growing up again--the healthy way this time.
Tomorrow, fWH will get up at the crack of dawn and go to his 50th IC session. After d-day, I honestly thought I'd never admire this man again. I was wrong .
Married 14 years, three amazing kids
H had 17 month EA/PA
Posts: 787 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 39858
| Posted: 2:20 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013|
My husband also has a past that needs to be dealt with.
Thank you for this beautiful message of hope. I pray my husband finds the same path to recovery.
BW - 42 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 13 years, 3 children
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.
Posts: 248 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Somewhere Out There
Member # 15162
| Posted: 2:21 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013|
It's amazing what can happen when you tear down those walls
FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12
The people you do your life with shape the life you live
Posts: 39045 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
Member # 36622
| Posted: 2:52 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013|
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"
Posts: 2737 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 31349
| Posted: 2:56 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013|
That is so wonderful to hear. I'm really happy for you both!
"All the wars, all the hatred, all the ignorance in the world come out of being so invested in our opinions. And at bottom, those opinions are merely our efforts to escape the underlying uneasiness of being human. - Pema Chodron
Posts: 20814 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 39523
| Posted: 2:59 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013|
Recon posters , you are making my day!
Posts: 180 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: United States
Member # 40144
| Posted: 3:06 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013|
Thanks for that awesome message of hope!
Glad it is working out so well for you both. Congratulations!
I hope it's contagious!
Me: 40s BS, Him: 40s WH
M 21 yrs - 3 teens
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday = 2/10/13, he moved out, he officially moved back in 1/25/14 and our work continues...
Posts: 844 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: MidWest
Member # 40166
| Posted: 6:31 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013|
That is so great!
I feel the same way about my H today.
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.
Posts: 1044 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
Member # 39667
| Posted: 6:38 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013|
this is exactly what I needed to see today. Thank you!!!
BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"
Posts: 915 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 15902
| Posted: 6:39 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013|
Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled
Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.
Posts: 5873 | Registered: Aug 2007
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