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sailorgirl (original poster member #38162) posted at 8:15 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
I am feeling awed by my fWH's capacity for growth. He suppressed and denied his horrible childhood for 44 years. Whenever it leaked out of containment, he was paralyzed with pain and fear. Yet, since d-day he has systematically faced the abuse, waded through the muck of it, and addressed the damage it caused inside him.
He is consistently owning what he did, examining the ugliness in his past, and changing his thought patterns. Basically, he is growing up again--the healthy way this time.
Tomorrow, fWH will get up at the crack of dawn and go to his 50th IC session. After d-day, I honestly thought I'd never admire this man again. I was wrong 
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Married 14 years, three amazing kids
H had 17 month EA/PA
D-day 1/5/13
Reconcilling
kickboxer ( member #39858) posted at 8:20 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
My husband also has a past that needs to be dealt with.
Thank you for this beautiful message of hope. I pray my husband finds the same path to recovery.
BW - 42 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 15 years, 3 children
DD: 7/13/13
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.
wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 8:21 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
It's amazing what can happen when you tear down those walls 
FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 8:52 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
Awesome
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 8:56 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
That is so wonderful to hear. I'm really happy for you both!
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
ifinallyfoundme ( member #39523) posted at 8:59 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
Recon posters , you are making my day!
StillStanding1 ( member #40144) posted at 9:06 PM on Monday, August 12th, 2013
Thanks for that awesome message of hope!
Glad it is working out so well for you both. Congratulations!
I hope it's contagious!
Me: BS50s Him: WH50s
M 25 years - DD DS DS
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday - 2/13, S for 1 year, now R
Morhurt ( member #40166) posted at 12:31 AM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
That is so great!
I feel the same way about my H today.
Mor
Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.
womaninflux ( member #39667) posted at 12:38 AM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
this is exactly what I needed to see today. Thank you!!!
BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"
HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 12:39 AM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled
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