When the outlook is dark, the uplook is bright.
Wow what a blow!!! I was sure we were in reconciliation from the discovery of my husbands physical affairs in January. We were in marriage couselling and getting along, communicating, setting boudaries and the whole nine. But my GUT kept telling me something was wrong, and sure enough after checking his phone records I discovered he was also invovled and continuing in an emotional affair! She did not know he was married or anything about me.
He explains that he could not reveal the affair, because when in 2011 he worked really hard to get with her, told her so many lies, and took her virgininty, it was very difficult for him to tell her he wanted out. And because of my pain and grief over the physical affairs, he said he couldn't tell me about her...because he said he knew it was "The Big One". But he wanted to, at least thats what he says...
Since my discovery he has broken the affair and has had no contact. He is working hard to reconcile, in a way I have never seen before.....and he seems to be relieved that she is out of his life...but I am afraid. Terribly terribly afriad that this is another FR and that he will cheat again....and again...and again...
What do you think?
BS me(37) SA?WH(28)
Kids x4 (D)12,5,3 (S)8months
Married 7 years
DDay#1 January 4,2012DDay#2 January 11, 2012 (revealed 2 more OW ONS)
DDAy#3 TT February 6, 2013
DDay#4 EA 2yr July 8th 2103