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User Topic: Every time there is a sink hole reported in Fla.....
♀ 13541
Member # 13541
Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

....I have to wonder if hell is searching for my POS ex!!

Oh, the antics!!
He was here for a week last week. He forgot to leave me a check but swore he mailed it on Tuesday. It came today and is postmarked Friday. Why lie?? It was late even if he mailed it on Tuesday, why lie.

But I know, I'm lucky to get it at all. But living paycheck to paycheck, when it's late, I have to decided which mortgage not to pay and I hate that!
Please, please let me sell this house!!!!!

Anyway a few choice tidbits my kids came home with.....

dad: "why am I made out to be the bad guy?"
me: jaw drop
Son's comment to me: "It's OK mom....we know what happened. We were there."

dad: "why can't your mother and I be friends, go out to dinner? We had so many good times together."
Me: jaw drop
Son's comment to me: "It's OK mom....we know what happened. We were there."

dad: "why is your mother having money problems? It's been 6 years!"
me: jaw drop
Uhm... because I'm still in the same house paying 3 mortgages and it hasn't sold in 2 1/2 years it's been on the market.
Uhm....because right before you left we moved to the country where there are no high paying jobs and I wasted 15 years of my life building the business you and OW ran into the ground and had to start a new career from scratch.
Uhm....because the alimony only lasted for 4 years.
Uhm...because I have two teenagers and an aging mother that I'm fully responsible for.

Hindsite: I was a bad planner and should have moved, just left him with the house, the month after he left.
But I also know I was a zombie for those first couple of years. But to my credit, I did
go back to school and now have a decent job....if I can just get out from under this house.

I don't want to blame. Hard not to...But once this house sells things will get so much easier.....

Just venting.

BS(me)45 now 48, WH (POS)45 now 48
M 24trs, DD14, DS15
POS OW - then 24, now doesn't matter
D-day 1/2/07, Divorced 11/13/08
ôLive without pretending, Love without depending, Listen without defending, Speak without offending."

Posts: 2062 | Registered: Feb 2007 | From: NY
♀ 23890
Member # 23890
Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's okay mariusa! You can vent -- We know what happened. We were there!

House selling mojo!!! on it's way!

"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4432 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
♀ 28622
Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would rather send sink hole mojo.

But house selling mojo is probably more helpful!

Me: 45, independent, happy, despite parallel parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 15 DS 12
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 7052 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
♂ 38122
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your son is the coolest!

Me: 1970
Two sons: 2000 and 2003
Cheating louse: What's her name again?

Married Aug/95
DDay Nov/12
Separated Mar/13
Finally divorced Jul/17

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!

Posts: 3569 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
♀ 32847
Member # 32847
Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear ya. About the sinkhole AND the house.


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

Posts: 1650 | Registered: Jul 2011
♀ 35229
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 6:27 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

House selling mojo!!

I thank the gods that I insisted on insisting on selling the house during False R despite MASSIVE pressure from the sad clown not to because, y'know - he was so committed to R it was TOTALLY not going to go pear-shaped....

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 6003 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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