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User Topic: Out of the mouth of OW...
Dark Inertia
Member # 30727
Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been frequenting the forums that I use to visit before I discovered this one. I have been hanging out in the "support" forum for OW/M. Funny enough this forum is filled with former OW/M who are very deadset against affairs now, like almost fanatical about it. But I digress...

I had to share this gem, because I just about died when I read it: An OW came on and was telling the story of her and her MM's affair. Of course her BH is controlling, and doesn't approve of this other side of her (she said he doesn't approve of her being active, traveling, and taking risks... no joke ) But what got me was it came out that she married her husband DURING her affair. When people called her on it this was her response:

"FWIW, I did not mention fidelity in the vows that I wrote."

Now is it just me or is that an especially stupid thing to say?

[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 9:59 PM, August 12th (Monday)]

"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

Posts: 1731 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
♀ 10798
Member # 10798
Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Rationalize much?

Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

Posts: 2199 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
♀ 26928
Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 10:22 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me - 43
DD(22), DS(19, PDD-NOS)

WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).

I edit often for clarity/typos.

Posts: 8132 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Here and There
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well then. What's the issue?

You can call me NIK

"The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it." - Brene Brown

Posts: 33459 | Registered: Aug 2011
♀ 35229
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Would have been handy if they HAD mentioned their intentions for infidelity now wouldn't it....

What a Jillarse, seriously.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5953 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 12:24 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LOL. You know I don't recall me and STBX saying anything about fidelity in our vows either (we had a civil ceremony). No wonder why he cheated on me!

BW - Me (38)
XWH -The Gnat
OW - Hello Kitty the Whore Engaged to the Gnat. I hear the white trash, wedding bells as we speak.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (7), 1 DS (2)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 1153 | Registered: Mar 2013
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