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User Topic: The things I would love to say to OW
♀ 39588
Member # 39588
Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have only spoken to her once since all of this ( she is an old childhood friend and lives hours away) and all I asked for was her H's number and told her I didn't want to hear a thing she has to say. That doesn't stop me from having days of pure hatred toward her where I would love nothing more than to trash the shit out of her. This is a letter I guess, nothing I would ever send but just need to get it out.

Dear Home Wrecking Whore,

I would LOVE to know exactly what you were thinking! You called me
stupid and desperate and at first it pissed me off until I realized the idiocy of that statement!!!! YOU are really the stupid and desperate one!!!! Pursuing a married man with SIX kids!!!! You had ZERO regard for anyone but yourself. You did not care once about the 7 innocent lives you were trying to destroy - only that you got what you thought you wanted.

You threw ALL the blame onto my H - yes he was a giant idiot and is to blame 50% but you are NOT an innocent victim by any means. You knew exactly where he was and what he was doing that night and set out to get what you wanted. You even said he got what he wanted and then blocked you. GOOD!!! I know the truth but I hope you feel like the piece of trash that you are. Used and then tossed in the garbage like a piece of toilet paper. He realized what a good, honest, FAITHFUL woman he had and no piece of garbage like you was worth anything.

I could say I wish you the best (ha!) or that I wish you die alone and miserable but at this point I honestly don't care. My wish is to never hear your name or see you ever again - that you become the nothingness that you are and deserve to be.


Whew! I know it's harsh but I have never written anything out to her. I hope it helps me push some of that anger aside.

Me (BS): 36
Him aka narcissistic psychopath (WS): 36
Married 17 years 6 kids ages 16-7
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

Filed for divorce 5/8/15

Posts: 326 | Registered: Jun 2013
♀ 14576
Member # 14576
Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

***Big round of applause***

Excellent vent!

You're right - no need to send because SHE. DOESN'T. CARE. She would probably relish in your pain and anger expressed in this letter. She will never believe she did any wrong or own her shit - it is not in her moral compass.



Me - 52; FWH - 54
Married 34 years 9/2/17
2 grown daughters-33 & 30
8yo GS,4yo GD & 3yo. GD (DD33) and 5 yo GD & 1 yo GD(DD30). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
Reconciled! Construction Complete.

Posts: 6242 | Registered: May 2007
♀ 39588
Member # 39588
Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you :). It feels good to finally get it out. I'm sure I could go on and on and on but those are the main points lol

Me (BS): 36
Him aka narcissistic psychopath (WS): 36
Married 17 years 6 kids ages 16-7
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

Filed for divorce 5/8/15

Posts: 326 | Registered: Jun 2013
♀ 15300
Member # 15300
Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good vent. Get it out.

After one of my XSO's bimbos called my private line, I called her back and told her in no uncertain terms that if she wanted to fu*k my boyfriend, she could use his cell phone, but if she ever ever used my private unlisted number again, I would have her charged with harassment. She kept saying, "But--but--but--" and I told her to shut up and listen.

She told my XSO that I am not a nice person.

Age: 64..ummmmmmm,, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks

Posts: 8747 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
♀ 33822
Member # 33822
Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is an awesome letter!! Hope it helps with your anger, I know journaling has helped me so much. And as far as your letter being harsh, heck yeah! She deserves every word of it!

My EXWH: 6 month EA in 2010 OW 1

2 year Sexting/PA 2012-2014 OW2

I divorced him in May 2014

Posts: 442 | Registered: Nov 2011
♀ 39996
Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Peach....we are only too happy to listen!!!!

I too had a hubby that was pursued by a venomous spider. She had a plan, saw an opportunity because she had access and spun a very tangled, nasty web. I felt your pain in your vent.

I unfortunately got to have a very long and painful conversation with my venomous OW. She contacted me directly on the night after she showed up unexpectedly at our doorstep....hard to do since we live in a different country....yes please take a moment to let that narcissistic action of hers sink in. She actually got on a plane and wound up here.

When she realized from H and my joint "get the hell out of our lives text" that she no longer had total control over the situation she texted me back directly and actually tired to tell me she had done nothing wrong, that my H was her very best friend in the whole world and why was I taking him away from her????? That their love for one another was pure and strong ( although H has told me she could never say that to him ever ) and why couldn't I just realize this was meant to be???

I took the opportunity to call her out on every point she tried to make. I got to say every nasty, disgusting thing I had pent up inside me, I even called her a whore who had to resort to befriending my hubby when her tactic of surprisingly pushing up against a bathroom door in a far off country and shoving her tongue down his throat didn't have the desired affect she thought it would have on him. To be fair to my H, he fought off her overtly sexual advances on him for over a year before she switched tactics. I also got to call her a narcissistic bitch who cared nothing for the 2 families she destroyed in her wake.

Sadly enough she is so into her self and delusional world that I doubt my words had any affect on her at all. We have had to resort to restraining orders in two country's to keep her at bay.


[This message edited by TxsT at 10:20 AM, August 13th (Tuesday)]

Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!

Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wrote OW a very colorful letter right after DDAY calling her every name in the book. I did not know her personally she was a co worker of my WH. But she knew who I was and that he was married with 4 kids at home. didn't stop her from the chase. I even thought about making copies of the letter and taping them to every employees windshield.. so that every know what a piece of garbage OW is. I still have the letter never gave it to her....didn't want her to know she hurt me. I would walk into that store they worked at with my head held high and a smile on my face walk right up to WH and give him a big old hug and kiss I didn't even care that he was on the clock. That was enough for me to show OW that she failed to destroy my marriage.....Thankfully tho they no longer work at the same store as we no longer live in that town....tho 100 miles is still not far enough away!!

There better not be a "next time"

Posts: 90 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: a mere speck in a much bigger picture
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Way to go Peach. I'm a firm believer in writing it out. It does help. I could make a book with all my vents to ws.
I would like to tell ow
No ws is not a victim in our M. I'm not a bitch, but he's an excellent actor. I know he's lots of fun when he's playing, but you couldn't handle 24 hrs living with him...
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank

Posts: 5738 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
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