This is the hall of mirrors. Where you will face yourself. Buckle up.
Yep. I would go into JFO and General and feel like utter road kill. Still do sometimes.
I really did those things. I really hurt people. I took innocence away. I destroyed trust. I blew up a "happily ever after".
It's hard to read from the "other side". My husband was angry, but he didn't express himself like I see a lot of BSs here. That was part of why it was hard for me to read.
Think about how rampant infidelity is, how many affairs go undetected, how many people don't change when caught. There are APs that will always be APs. Because they feel absolutely zero reason to change. Those are the APs the BSs vent about. The bunny boilers, the stalkers, the repeat offenders. Do they have moments where they will blow up over an affair that has been over and done with for multiple years? Where their WS has been doing the hard work? Yeah sure. They have bad days. It all comes flooding back. A trigger strikes and they are reminded yet again, that this is their life. I can't imagine how disheartening or traumatizing that feels.
When I first came to SI, I never in a million years dreamed I would be proud about anything of myself. That I could change. That I could be a better person. But here I am. Still a work in progress. But I'm proud of what I've done so far.
And in a odd twist of fate, I have made friends in the process. 90% of my friends are BSs. No joke. And it's not weird or uncomfortable for us. We have wonderful times. We laugh, cry, whatever. They don't judge me for my past. They accept me for who I am today. That's huge.
All that to say, "I get it". Totally.
So. A question. What have you done today to make you proud of you and the changes you have made?
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne