One of the things I found on my H phone, was a reminder to buy a birthday card Aug 18. It was in there 8 times. It was OW birthday. He made an horrible excuse that it was a reminder for his fathers birthday in Nov.
It was something we fought about alot. Loudly. Yesterday, we received an invitation. It had Aug 18 all over it. ANd claimed ITS THAT SPECIAL TIME!!!!!!! ITs aug 18. Bring a gift!!!!!!. Wierd invitation. Made more of the date then actual activity. Its his nieces baby shower. It made us both very uncomfortable. We didnt speak much. He hums when we are uncomfortable. It also makes me furious that it made him think of her and remember her birthday. It made me remember the whole nightmare. Just a trigger. I may embrace it. I think I will make a birthday cake on August 18. His favorite. Really. Maybe give it to the outside bugs. While humming. then baseball bat that sucker like a home run. I need to claim this day.