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User Topic: Her, her friends, and a Rant
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♂ 19755
Member # 19755
Default  Posted: 12:06 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Man, just woke up in a bad mood. So school is approaching (Iíve got 3 kids), and I dread seeing my exw friends at the school (she stayed at home with the kids for years and made these friends), I should say, that if you cut through all the BS in our failed marriage, the main reason she left was so she could party (clubbing at 36) with her friends. She had two EAs, has this thing for being easily impressed with men, and then wanted to party at these high risk environments. She claims to be this really deep Christian, but then listens to music around our 9 year old (for that matter all my kids) daughter about getting laid at a club (Iím sure you all have heard these songs), To the point my kids sometimes sing these songs.
But back to her friends, so I dread seeing these people, itís like Iím walking into her world. I tell myself Iím there for my kids only; these people are irrelevant in my life. I shouldnít worry about the gossiping and I shouldnít assume they talk or think trash on me. But man, I hate to go into these environments. I know that I am struggling with being objective these days, I am probably painting her out worse then she is and her friends as well. Sometimes I feel I lost a hold on what reality really is.

BS-Me (38)
3 Kids-
2009-She wants divorce
2009-2012 trying to R
2012-she wants a divorce again
2012-we are divorced
2013- trying MC to work it out, she does show some remorse, but I can't trust here anymore
2013- she moved out,

Posts: 138 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: California
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't you doubt yourself for a moment - you KNOW what reality is. It isn't what you were lead to believe, but that doesn't make you crazy in the least.

Keep your focus on your kids, and ignore the ex's friends. They can think whatever they want, but it doesn't make it truth.


You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

Posts: 40228 | Registered: Aug 2011
♀ 24961
Member # 24961
Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't think for a minute just because she said hi to these people for years at the school that they are her friends and support her. I'm willing to bet most of them are disgusted by what she has done and the partying she is doing. She is a threat to their happy marriages now that they know what she is willing to do.

You don't have to talk to any of them. You are right, you are there for your kids. If any of them approach you, just smile, and chat. You may be surprised how many of them refuse to talk to your wife now...I know I was, when the men from my son's hockey team started to tell my XH to screw off and never talk to them again.

BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.

Posts: 5919 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
♀ 19595
Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It might have been her world before but now what does she have in common with the moms at school now? Do they know about her ?
If they do know, believe me they don't want her close to their husbands or family. I hope they show you the respect you deserve and they know you didn't do anything to cause her to become the bitch she is now.

I just hope they don't take it out on your kids because of their mon's stupidity.

It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20489 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
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