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User Topic: Questions about returning to the workforce
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Member # 34861
Default  Posted: 1:31 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been looking for a part-time position in my field (higher education) for the last few years now, with no luck. I have had a couple interviews which I thought went well, but I was not offered either position. (Because I am looking exclusively for part-time work, my job opportunities are much more limited and I know that but it's not something DH and I are willing to compromise on at this point.) I've been home full-time for 7 years now - my kids are in 2nd and 4th grade - and I am READY to get out of the house and put my education to use again!

As of now, I've got one application out for a job that I'd REALLY like, but I'm not getting my hopes up. I submitted it over a month ago, and it appears from their website that they're still reviewing applications - who knows how long it could take.

If that doesn't work out, I was going to see if it would be possible to volunteer at a local community college a couple days a week to get some more recent experience and get some more job contacts (the few that I have are from at least 7 years ago, and there are several I've not been able to locate.) This seems like a great idea to me, but is it really? Would it seem weird or somehow unprofessional to work without being paid?

If it is a good idea, how do I go about contacting someone about it - through email, phone or do I show up in person? Do I wait until I hear about the job application I have out before I start contacting anyone? The kids are officially back to school full force and I'm ready to get this going once and for all :)

Thoughts? Advice?

Me - BW (38). Him - FWS (35)
College sweethearts
M - 13 years; together 16
DD (9) and DS (7)
Blindsided by confession on 2/17/12
6+ mo. EA/2x PA

Putting the pieces back together, day by day. Hardest thing I've ever done.

Posts: 225 | Registered: Feb 2012
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know how helpful I will be but a few things came to mind.

Why not call and ask the status of your application to that job that you are waiting on?

Also, I work for a non-profit and whenever there's an opening at the agency, the position gets posted internally-to staff and volunteers-before it goes out to the public. So yes, I think volunteering where you want to work is a good idea. In fact, I'm interviewing somebody this week who volunteers for the program I coordinate for a paid position within the other program I coordinate.

Good luck!

“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of “you’re not alone.” ~ Brene Brown

Posts: 54995 | Registered: Sep 2007
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Member # 36126
Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Honestly I would substitute teach. Take the positions open and see what happens. Especially those on leave.

Good luck!

Posts: 1562 | Registered: Jul 2012
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been reduced to finding places to volunteer my services so I can claim recent work experience on my resume. It's humiliating.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For workplace issues in general and job-finding help in particular, I recommend the Human Workplace ( Liz Ryan is the guru, and her approach is creative, intuitive, and effective.

There's a tremendous amount of free help there. My only connection with HW and Liz Ryan is as a consumer.

fBH (me) - 70+, fWW, Married 45+, together 45+, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
I share my own experience because it's all I know.

Posts: 15934 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Illinois
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