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User Topic: Questions about returning to the workforce
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Member # 34861
Default  Posted: 1:31 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been looking for a part-time position in my field (higher education) for the last few years now, with no luck. I have had a couple interviews which I thought went well, but I was not offered either position. (Because I am looking exclusively for part-time work, my job opportunities are much more limited and I know that but it's not something DH and I are willing to compromise on at this point.) I've been home full-time for 7 years now - my kids are in 2nd and 4th grade - and I am READY to get out of the house and put my education to use again!

As of now, I've got one application out for a job that I'd REALLY like, but I'm not getting my hopes up. I submitted it over a month ago, and it appears from their website that they're still reviewing applications - who knows how long it could take.

If that doesn't work out, I was going to see if it would be possible to volunteer at a local community college a couple days a week to get some more recent experience and get some more job contacts (the few that I have are from at least 7 years ago, and there are several I've not been able to locate.) This seems like a great idea to me, but is it really? Would it seem weird or somehow unprofessional to work without being paid?

If it is a good idea, how do I go about contacting someone about it - through email, phone or do I show up in person? Do I wait until I hear about the job application I have out before I start contacting anyone? The kids are officially back to school full force and I'm ready to get this going once and for all :)

Thoughts? Advice?

Me - BW (38). Him - FWS (35)
College sweethearts
M - 13 years; together 16
DD (9) and DS (7)
Blindsided by confession on 2/17/12
6+ mo. EA/2x PA

Putting the pieces back together, day by day. Hardest thing I've ever done.

Posts: 225 | Registered: Feb 2012
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know how helpful I will be but a few things came to mind.

Why not call and ask the status of your application to that job that you are waiting on?

Also, I work for a non-profit and whenever there's an opening at the agency, the position gets posted internally-to staff and volunteers-before it goes out to the public. So yes, I think volunteering where you want to work is a good idea. In fact, I'm interviewing somebody this week who volunteers for the program I coordinate for a paid position within the other program I coordinate.

Good luck!

"If you want to know who your tribe is, speak your truth, then see who sticks around. Those are the people who get a spot in your blanket fort." -Nanea Hoffman

Posts: 55120 | Registered: Sep 2007
♀ 36126
Member # 36126
Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Honestly I would substitute teach. Take the positions open and see what happens. Especially those on leave.

Good luck!

Posts: 1563 | Registered: Jul 2012
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been reduced to finding places to volunteer my services so I can claim recent work experience on my resume. It's humiliating.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
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Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For workplace issues in general and job-finding help in particular, I recommend the Human Workplace ( Liz Ryan is the guru, and her approach is creative, intuitive, and effective.

There's a tremendous amount of free help there. My only connection with HW and Liz Ryan is as a consumer.

fBH (me) - 66 on d-day, Married 43, together 45 on d-day, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
Most of us know only our own experience. That's not enough data to support a general rule that D, or R, is right in every sitch.

Posts: 16789 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Illinois
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