They can stop her. Get a good attorney. It's going to cost...$3000 - $7000. I cannot stress how much it is worth it.
She can be subpoened itno court where YOU are since SHE is contacting YOU.
It will cost her. Once you have a stalking restraining order, she can be dragged into jail, AND she can be extradicted to your state to face charges. How is that for inconvenience.
If she is still threatening and harrassing you, she is a SERIOUS threat.
Change your numbers, close out and change your and his emails, change your FB profile or close it out altogether. You will be able to prove to the judge that you have made every effort on your part...I know not fair.
If you have children, I cannot stress enough how important it is to get a restraining order.
Been there with his crazy ex.
Married 8, together 9