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LeapofFaith04 (original poster new member #39150) posted at 2:19 AM on Wednesday, August 14th, 2013
Today I had some clarity and I hope it sticks around. I was hoping others would share their moments of clarity.
I am not sure why my moment was tied to someone else's perception of my situation but here it goes . . . I have a friend who is quite the alpha female. She has offered tough love through this whole ordeal. In my mind, I always felt that she faulted me, in some way, for my WS's actions. Today, she flat out told me that my WS was a cheater and she believes he had been cheating on me for longer than I believe and that he is morally bankrupt.
I felt validated. It opened my eyes to something I had not seen before. I wish I can say what it was, but I do feel now that my toughest critic is on my side, so to speak.
I feel great! I almost feel INDIFFERENT and I want this to last and last. Anyone else have these kinds of "moments?" Did it propel you forward in your healing process?
BW - 35 (me)
WH - 36
DS - 4
Married - 2004 (together 11 1/2 years total)
D-day - 1/27/13
jackfish ( member #40257) posted at 3:03 AM on Wednesday, August 14th, 2013
"is morally bankrupt"
Great saying. Makes total sense.
My sitch is pretty fresh yet. But I have felt that (indifference, etc). But then something triggers the sucky emotions sometimes as well.p Basically, a solid sleep would help too!
Keep working on loving yourself, and good friends help that. We can do this Leap.
Iamhappytoday ( member #39051) posted at 4:54 AM on Wednesday, August 14th, 2013
I have a friend who is the same way. At first it angered me because I loved my ex and didn't appreciate the bad mouthing, but sometimes others see a truth we aren't crazy about--even if they don't have it quite right.
They see enough that we miss.
BW 39
WH 34
2DD's 15 months at start
Together 10 years, M 9
OW 22 CW, 2kids by 2 men & youngest less than 1 when affair started.
Dday 1 8/16/12 "just texting"
TT, gaslighting, denial; was always PA; he left me for her. Divorced 8/11/15
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