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Today I had some clarity and I hope it sticks around. I was hoping others would share their moments of clarity.

I am not sure why my moment was tied to someone else's perception of my situation but here it goes . . . I have a friend who is quite the alpha female. She has offered tough love through this whole ordeal. In my mind, I always felt that she faulted me, in some way, for my WS's actions. Today, she flat out told me that my WS was a cheater and she believes he had been cheating on me for longer than I believe and that he is morally bankrupt.

I felt validated. It opened my eyes to something I had not seen before. I wish I can say what it was, but I do feel now that my toughest critic is on my side, so to speak.

I feel great! I almost feel INDIFFERENT and I want this to last and last. Anyone else have these kinds of "moments?" Did it propel you forward in your healing process?

"is morally bankrupt"

Great saying. Makes total sense.

My sitch is pretty fresh yet. But I have felt that (indifference, etc). But then something triggers the sucky emotions sometimes as well.p Basically, a solid sleep would help too!

Keep working on loving yourself, and good friends help that. We can do this Leap.

I have a friend who is the same way. At first it angered me because I loved my ex and didn't appreciate the bad mouthing, but sometimes others see a truth we aren't crazy about--even if they don't have it quite right.

They see enough that we miss.