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Topic: OW quit her job today
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RedRose
♀ 39584
Member # 39584 |  Posted: 8:30 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013 |     |
WH continued to work with OW, but today she gave her notice and said she wouldn't be back. Why am I not happier? While I am glad she won't have reason to see him all the time, she still lives near his work (an hour away from where we live). I feel automatically suspicious that this is a way for the A to go underground, instead of just being elated that we can finally be done with her. I hate living with suspicion all the time
BW-37
WH - 38
2.5 year LTA
2nd A 2/20/16
Posts: 164 | Registered: Jun 2013 |
jjsr
♀ 34353
Member # 34353 |  Posted: 9:12 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013 | |
Well what tells you that the A might go underground. Is your husband displaying signs that he is still cheating? I don't know your story.
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.
Posts: 1849 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now. |
mchercheur
♀ 37735
Member # 37735 | | Posted: 9:17 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013 | |
(((RedRose)))
I understand. My WH still works in the same building as OW, altho they no longer sit next to each other every day all day.
I am guessing we will never 100% trust them again.
I am hoping for you that she is finally out of your life, & that you & your WH can start a new chapter.
Me: BW
Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011
Married 27+ years/Together 28+ years/4 kids together
OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids
Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
Posts: 2398 | Registered: Dec 2012 |
AML04
♀ 39682
Member # 39682 | | Posted: 7:14 AM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
I wish OW would quit!!! But I can see how this could also make you uncomfortable. I truly hope your H isn't giving you any reason to think this might happen. I know it's hard but try to look at it positively.
Good luck!
Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R
Posts: 876 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA |
still-living
♂ 30434
Member # 30434 | | Posted: 7:38 AM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
My wife quitting her job was one of the best days of my life, and our recovery rapidly improved after she did.
BH(me)47
WW 47 FOO Issues
DDay 11/09 Coworker
High School Sweethearts
Married 06/91
8 months TT
Sons 19 and 14
Recovery is constructing a pyramid of inference from which to see clearer.
The process involves using the reflexive loop.
Posts: 1458 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Ches |
RedRose
♀ 39584
Member # 39584 | | Posted: 8:28 AM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
My story, in a nutshell - WH had an EA turned PA with a coworker for two years. I found out in December, and the A went underground until July. He hasn't given me any reason to believe that it has continued since then, has been transparent for the first time, and was very clear to OW about NC, which he hadn't done before. So, I do think he is doing everything right at this point. I just expected to be thrilled that she quit - and I am happy - just hope that it isn't too good to be true! [This message edited by RedRose at 8:29 AM, August 14th (Wednesday)]
BW-37
WH - 38
2.5 year LTA
2nd A 2/20/16
Posts: 164 | Registered: Jun 2013 |
Scubachick
♀ 39906
Member # 39906 | | Posted: 2:07 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Red Rose,
I understand completely! My husband fired her and I rehired her (although at the time I only had part of the truth). I was conflicted because I thought at least I can keep my eye on her but at the same time I hated that she was still there. If she quit I would never know where she was or what she was up to. I bet your husband is happy she quit!
Posts: 1825 | Registered: Jul 2013 |
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