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I'm at a point now where I'm uncomfortable referring to my husband as WH when posting. R is going well,after a bumpy first several weeks.The work he's doing in IC and MC as well as our daily life floors me-the same man who was dumbass enough to risk our "us" is now busting tail to be worthy of me and the life we share.

I know everyone is different,but when did you give your WS the "f" in front of the "W"...and why?

I'm interested in the answers as I've never-ever referred to Mr Lucky as a WS.

I never put a w in front of the H, so had no need for an f.

A while back someone posted about this and it resonated with me. They thought labels were problematic and not helpful in R. I think the label really kept me stuck even though her actions were right. I only use the WS or WW when needed for clarity. Otherwise she is my W.

I'm too lazy to type an F?

But seriously... I'm 95% sure he's an F but damned if I ever let my guard down. Them's the breaks. Sorry babe.

I'm not yet using an "f" but the thought of working toward my WW earning that "f" is motivating for both of us.

She'll get the "f" when I feel that I can trust her again. (or as close to 100 per cent trust as is possible after an LTA).

I guess everyone's different.

I have been giving my husband the capitol F since we started R two years ago. I figured when I completely forgave him I would take it away. I don't know if I am there yet but maybe I can make it a small f

I initially used WS when I first joined for clarity's sake and assumed etiquette, then quickly adopted fWS, but I realized I'm not really up to labelling my wife beyond what she is. Which is she's my wife, regardless of anything else. So that's what I call her. Don't even use her SI name to refer to her, she's just my wife. As she should be.

I get how labels and descriptors are relevant and important to some folks but for myself it isn't how I work. I'm not prone to labelling things and it doesn't serve a purpose for me.

My WH has certainly earned it (the f) but he will never, ever get it. He will forever be a WH.

I see it like this:
I gave birth to 2 children that call me Mom. If, for whatever reason, they decided to walk out of my life and never see me again I would still be a Mom...I would not be a fMom.

Sadly, if he didn't want the degrading title, he should never have done the degrading deed.

I have chosen not to use the "WH" for my husband. I feel like it jus constantly reinforces a negative emotion.

He is my husband. I love him. I am grateful that I can separate the person from his actions. I want to reconcile. Therefore, I must support and maintain a respectful and loving attitude toward him no matter what.

That is a choice I am making for myself.

Remember the saying: un forgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.

I've almost always referred to my W as 'W' or 'my W' in posts, but in my profile, I made her fWS when I was really convinced she wouldn't cheat again.

In some respects it was a big deal. In retrospect, 'not cheating again' is such a small part of R that the 'f' may really be a minor detail....

I think I used the fwh title for awhile...since he was so immediately sorry and remorseful. I truly just think of him as my H now. We love each other more than anything and we together are weathering this storm. It is so much better two years later. Most days I feel happy, hopeful, and more and more normal.

well...she's a former WW.

Unless the "f" stands for EFFING Wayward Husband, he's not getting an f anytime soon No where near trusting him. I hope one day I will feel he deserves the f for "former".

I'm in the same boat as many others; use something other than "H" for clarity only. He's still what he always was, my husband.