Me BW Him XSAWH
It depends on the attorney. An attorney can be great about keeping your STBX on task - responding to requests, and being realistic about expectations (e.g. if you are in a 'marriage property' state, then you are entitled to half of the marital property including retirement accounts, etc).
A terrible attorney, well, that's a different story.
My ex at first didn't want to hire an attorney, then he did. I got nervous but attorney told him, "You committed adultery in a 'fault' state and she is giving you 60% of the assets and filing no fault. Take it and run."
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid