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HFSSC posted 8/13/2013 21:23 PM

It was very sudden and unexpected. And I am so proud of him and the way he has supported and loved his mother over the past week, and also for his wisdom and cooler head prevailing over me and my knee-jerk bitchiness.

MeMe broke her leg last Saturday. She had been living independently, and fell in her home, fracturing her femur. They couldn't operate immediately, but she did well during the surgery. My MIL (it was her mom) mentioned to me that if she needed rehab, they wanted her to come to where I work. That was my preference, because I could keep an eye on her, and also because our facility is simply one of the best SNF/rehab facilities in our state. MeMe balked at coming to where I worked. "I don't like to mix business with family" was what she said.

And my little feelings were hurt. Oh, I wanted to let my MIL have it. And JM was so calming, so assured. He was definitely on my side, but helped me to see that if I said something to my MIL it would not make things any better at all. And that it was probably best for her to be somewhere else, because if anything bad happened, some of the family (if not all) would blame it on me.

She went to rehab on Friday, then went back to the hospital yesterday with a bowel obstruction. She could not survive the surgery and ended up coding in the ER and unable to be resuscitated.

I'm so glad I didn't say something bitchy to my MIL. She is heartbroken. And because my smart, kind husband helped me to keep my fat mouth shut, I am able to comfort her. I truly wish I had been able to care for MeMe during her final days, but she left on her own terms. Directed everything to the last minute.

And then some. She left detailed written instructions as to how her funeral should go. I'll be singing the songs that she, um, requested. (Demanded )

Don't want to get this pulled from OT, and so I will just close with this: I'm so grateful and glad that our path has led us to where we are now. I'm so glad that JM was willing to listen, and work, and learn how to be a true man and leader of our home. He is a wonderful example to our boys.

MovingUpward posted 8/13/2013 21:27 PM

My condolences on your loss.

DragnHeart posted 8/13/2013 21:35 PM

So sorry for your loss.

jo2love posted 8/13/2013 21:38 PM

I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 9:39 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)]

Deeply Scared posted 8/13/2013 21:44 PM

I'm really sorry for your family's loss...my prayers are with you

Kajem posted 8/14/2013 01:27 AM

MeMe sounds like she was a force to be reckoned with. I am sorry for your loss. Prayers hoping out for your family.

Hugs,
K

HFSSC posted 8/14/2013 05:40 AM

Thanks, y'all. I appreciate your kind words so much.


MeMe sounds like she was a force to be reckoned with.

Oh, she was. The last thing she said to my SIL (on Sunday) was, "R, this conversation is NOT interesting."

authenticnow posted 8/14/2013 05:48 AM

I'm sorry for your family's loss.

And, I love feisty seniors .

metamorphisis posted 8/14/2013 06:54 AM

Sending hugs to both of you, I am sorry for your loss. I am so glad to hear you can be a team now when it's needed though. What a testament to your hard work.
MeMe sounds like she was a strong woman.

movingforward777 posted 8/14/2013 09:17 AM

((HFSSC)) Sorry for your loss...she sounds like quite a lady!

nowiknow23 posted 8/14/2013 10:00 AM

So sorry for your loss. (((JM, HF, & family)))

Mama_of_3_Kids posted 8/14/2013 12:20 PM

So sorry to hear (((SSC's)))

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