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abigailadams
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So the sale of the marital home fell through today and stbx emailed me "Sorry to cause you so much stress." Probably the only apology he will ever give me.

It triggered intense reconciliation fantasies. I thought I was getting to acceptance of the divorce. but a few kinds words in an email and I am a mess. I had a very strong memory this evening of being in our old house in the evening with my two step-daughters, after dinner and they were doing homework. It was a memory of how peaceful and loving our home once was.


Me BS 55
Him WS 53
Married 10 years together 13
DDay October 11, 2012

Posts: 134 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Brooklyn, NY
SweetheartVixen
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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im sorry.


BS/60s WS/60s Divorcing and not soon enough~!
Its nice to be important, but its more important to be nice...

DD 6-14


Posts: 3104 | Registered: Jul 2004 | From: somewhere over the rainbow
SBB
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Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((abigailadams))

The death of hope was one of the hardest and most painful aspects of this whole thing for me.

When it happened it was agony. I'm wincing at the memory of it now.

It is far easier when they are being monsters.

I'm so sorry you are hurting. I hate the dips on this damned rollercoaster. An upswing is coming soon.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5658 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, honey. I'm so sorry the sale fell through. Hoping you are soon entertaining even better offers.

(((hugs)))


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


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Iamhappytoday
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Member # 39051
Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so very sorry you are experiencing this.

I have no words of wisdom, but truly feel your heartbreak.

(((Abigail)))


BW 39
WH 34
2DD's 15 months at start
Together 10 years, M 9
OW 22 CW, 2kids by 2 men & youngest less than 1 when affair started.
Dday 1 8/16/12 "just texting"
TT, gaslighting, denial; was always PA; he left me for her.

Posts: 141 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Free!!!
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 11:09 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((HUGS)))


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10026 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 11:21 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((abigail)))

I'm so sorry.


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((abigail))) Your DDay is very recent I see. So easy to slip into the "bargaining" phase of grieving at this point.

It's intensely painful to let go of 'what was' and face what is to be.

You will get there eventually and find out things about yourself you never dreamed of.

Big huge hugs.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17706 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It triggered intense reconciliation fantasies

Oh I can totally relate to this. Any little crumb I got from him would just wreck me.

(((((abigailadams)))))

Of course you know you are worth so much more than what little drips and dregs he teases you with.

One day at a time. Just deal with today. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow isn't here yet.

peace


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1235 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
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