Member # 37556
| Posted: 9:31 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
So the sale of the marital home fell through today and stbx emailed me "Sorry to cause you so much stress." Probably the only apology he will ever give me.
It triggered intense reconciliation fantasies. I thought I was getting to acceptance of the divorce. but a few kinds words in an email and I am a mess. I had a very strong memory this evening of being in our old house in the evening with my two step-daughters, after dinner and they were doing homework. It was a memory of how peaceful and loving our home once was.
Me BS 55
Him WS 53
Married 10 years together 13
DDay October 11, 2012
Posts: 134 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Brooklyn, NY
Member # 4956
| Posted: 10:10 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
BS/60s WS/60s Divorcing and not soon enough~!
Its nice to be important, but its more important to be nice...
Posts: 3161 | Registered: Jul 2004 | From: somewhere over the rainbow
Member # 35229
| Posted: 10:16 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
The death of hope was one of the hardest and most painful aspects of this whole thing for me.
When it happened it was agony. I'm wincing at the memory of it now.
It is far easier when they are being monsters.
I'm so sorry you are hurting. I hate the dips on this damned rollercoaster. An upswing is coming soon.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Posts: 5996 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 33226
| Posted: 10:24 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
Oh, honey. I'm so sorry the sale fell through. Hoping you are soon entertaining even better offers.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Posts: 39859 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 39051
| Posted: 10:31 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
I'm so very sorry you are experiencing this.
I have no words of wisdom, but truly feel your heartbreak.
2DD's 15 months at start
Together 10 years, M 9
OW 22 CW, 2kids by 2 men & youngest less than 1 when affair started.
Dday 1 8/16/12 "just texting"
TT, gaslighting, denial; was always PA; he left me for her. Divorced 8/11/15
Posts: 213 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Free!!!
Member # 32554
| Posted: 11:09 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 31528
| Posted: 11:21 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013|
I'm so sorry.
Posts: 49448 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 20150
| Posted: 8:22 AM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013|
(((abigail))) Your DDay is very recent I see. So easy to slip into the "bargaining" phase of grieving at this point.
It's intensely painful to let go of 'what was' and face what is to be.
You will get there eventually and find out things about yourself you never dreamed of.
Big huge hugs.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Posts: 20283 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 22722
| Posted: 10:27 AM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013|
It triggered intense reconciliation fantasies
Oh I can totally relate to this. Any little crumb I got from him would just wreck me.
Of course you know you are worth so much more than what little drips and dregs he teases you with.
One day at a time. Just deal with today. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow isn't here yet.
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
Posts: 2059 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
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