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User Topic: Deep and enlightening article
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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was directed to this article by a fellow friend on SI. I hope it resonates with some of you, as it describes the impossible reality that is "romantic love" (*ahem* affair, for example) and the unrealistic expectations we put on our marriage. Makes me wonder if a little space is what I and my WH need...

Here's something that jumped out at me, in terms of our point of view as the BS:

"Disappointment is a loss of innocence. And that loss can actually wake us up, if we are willing to stick with the situation. There is a choicelessness that grows when you can appreciate the other person for who they are and give up trying to make them fit the image of your fantasy."

[This message edited by SmallButStrong at 10:53 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)]

Me: BW
Him: WH
Married 13 years at time of D-Day, 2 small children
D-day 1: 8/16/12 (told it was EA only)
D-day 2: 9/22/12 (the OW confessed to the truth and exposed the PA)
12 month affair, 10 months PA
Today: In MC and IC, attempting R

Posts: 84 | Registered: Jul 2013
Topic Posts: 1

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