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SmallButStrong (original poster member #40128) posted at 4:44 AM on Wednesday, August 14th, 2013
I was directed to this article by a fellow friend on SI. I hope it resonates with some of you, as it describes the impossible reality that is "romantic love" (*ahem*...an affair, for example) and the unrealistic expectations we put on our marriage. Makes me wonder if a little space is what I and my WH need...
http://www.shambhalasun.com/index.php?option=content&task=view&id=3491&Itemid=0&limit=1&limitstart=0
Here's something that jumped out at me, in terms of our point of view as the BS:
"Disappointment is a loss of innocence. And that loss can actually wake us up, if we are willing to stick with the situation. There is a choicelessness that grows when you can appreciate the other person for who they are and give up trying to make them fit the image of your fantasy."
[This message edited by SmallButStrong at 10:53 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)]
Me: BW
Him: WH
Married 13 years at time of D-Day, 2 small children
D-day 1: 8/16/12 (told it was EA only)
D-day 2: 9/22/12 (the OW confessed to the truth and exposed the PA)
12 month affair, 10 months PA
Today: In MC and IC, attempting R
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