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Eranda posted 8/14/2013 04:30 AM

I dated him for two YEARS. We lived together for 15 months. He moved out on Saturday, and last night one of my friends saw his profile on a dating site.


The best part? His profile says that he's "new to this" (meaning online dating- which is bullshit, that's how he met ME), that he's "newly divorced and wants to start dating" (he's not even divorced yet!) that he's a social drinker (he drinks like a fish, every single day) and other assorted lies. His age isn't even right.

He moved out on SATURDAY and he's trolling the internet for women already!?! Good Lord, how pathetic. What a lying sack of shit.

God save me from these men who are emotionally retarded, don't know their ass from a hole in the ground, and can't be alone for 5 minutes.

When I met him he had nothing, owned nothing. I gave him a place to live and a life. I thought that mattered to him. Apparently not, all he thinks is important is his stupid grill and drinking his stupid beer.

I'm now convinced I made the right decision when I told him that I wouldn't "date" him after he moved out, like he wanted me to. Because now I know that what he really wanted was someone to sleep with while he looked for someone new.

Fucking asshole.

jjct posted 8/14/2013 05:49 AM

Nice to have confirmation you dodged a bullet.

I just gotta wonder. Who fucks around with mighty Eranda?

A dumbass.

You did all that for him?
The stupid is stunning in that guy.

Amazonia posted 8/14/2013 05:58 AM

Further confirmation that you are better off without this kind of person in your life. You are seeing clearly who he is.

Now a hard question, how do you know this? Are you trolling yourself?

cmego posted 8/14/2013 06:29 AM

Yup, my fSO did the exact same thing. He admittedly cannot be alone.

There is nothing you can do but try to learn from the experience and choose someone healthier for your future.

Too_Trusting posted 8/14/2013 07:35 AM

Ama, Eranda said a friend saw him on the dating site.

Now to Eranda: I'm with the others - you dodged a mighty bullet with this jerk. Sounds a LOT like my exH - He had someone new very quickly after D-day and had her pregnant before we even filed for divorce!

Some people are just like that - they can't stand to live in their own skin, so they need someone else to quiet the insecurities in their head.

You are well rid of him because you are simply too strong and AWESOME to put up with the likes of him and those like him.

He's a douche and you made the perfect decision. Doesn't make it hurt less, I know. But, in time you will be oh-so-glad you dumped him right out of your awesome life. He doesn't deserve to share your oxygen.

cayc posted 8/14/2013 07:51 AM

Don't be hard on yourself. All you did was be kind, loving, loyal and generous. And he proved unworthy of it. So good riddance to bad rubbish.

nowiknow23 posted 8/14/2013 08:03 AM

All you did was be kind, loving, loyal and generous. And he proved unworthy of it.


Eranda posted 8/14/2013 08:37 AM

The worst part? This morning I accidentally get two texts from him that are meant for someone else, and he tries to play it off like they're for his daughter!! Like he texts his 15 year old daughter at 6am?? NOT.

I asked him if he really thought I was that stupid. Told him his behavior was very hurtful and to keep me out of it please. After that... crickets.

Seriously how could I have been so wrong about who this person is?

nowiknow23 posted 8/14/2013 08:50 AM

Seriously how could I have been so wrong about who this person is?
Because he is SO GOOD at projecting himself as the person you wanted him to be.

Wasband is a great pretender too. Still gets me with it, even 18 months post-D.

Don't try this at home, Eranda - leave it to the professionals. (((hugs)))

Amazonia posted 8/14/2013 09:16 AM

Would it be worth blocking his number? There's no reason you should have to deal with errant texts.

Housefulloflove posted 8/14/2013 10:35 AM

You dodged a bullet. A stupid, drunken, pathetic, broke and broken bullet.

EvenKeel posted 8/14/2013 15:13 PM

Seriously how could I have been so wrong about who this person is?

I think this should be SI's tagline!

I love when I get verification that I am on the right road (especially if I am struggling or lonely). You are on the right road....keep driving and don't look back.

Must Survive posted 8/14/2013 17:15 PM

This is what scares me about the dating scene. I am on OLD, see someone, do I ask for a lie detector test before a date?

I know its men and women, but some of these people are sooo good at looking the part, just almost makes me shake with fear. I don't want another broken boy.

Eranda posted 8/14/2013 20:03 PM

Personally, I have only met one person on a dating site who didn't misrepresent themselves in some way, whether it be age, exact marital status, personality, etc.

And yes, many of the people on online dating are broken- that's why they're there in the first place.

Personally, I would never do it again.

Eranda posted 8/14/2013 20:04 PM

I just gotta wonder. Who fucks around with mighty Eranda?

Sorry just had to mention how much this made me laugh :)

InnerLight posted 8/15/2013 09:35 AM

Ouch! A standing ovation to you to kicking him out of your home! You sure did the right thing there.

The Mighty Eranda Moves On.

BeyondBreaking posted 8/16/2013 17:19 PM

I'm not going to lie- I would be very tempted to make a fake profile, and get him hooked and interested in a fake woman, and have her stand him up!!!

clralb posted 8/16/2013 22:56 PM

Aw, hell. I was separated from ex for two years and we got matched on

His profile contained nothing but lies.

Just when you think your situation is unique, you find it really isn't.

What dirt bags.

Eranda posted 8/17/2013 14:32 PM

Yeah I would never play games with fake profiles and stuff... just not my style. If he wants to be gone, I let him go.

This is very difficult- knowing that a person who used to tell you how important you were, forgets all about you so easily. I'm sure he's not even looking back, the fucking douche.

Oh well, I just spent the morning putting my yard back the way *I* want it, and cleaning up. This is the first time I've cut the grass myself in a while LOL.

The Mighty Eranda Moves On is right...

burnt_toast posted 8/17/2013 22:02 PM

Wow Eranda, Kuddos for dodging this bullet...


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