She is now only interested in nursing in the middle of the night or occasionally when she wants to be close for comfort reasons. But, she is definitely weaning. She likes her solid foods and she loves whole milk which I introduced her to it a few weeks ago. I'm cutting out another pumping session at work today...from 2 to 1 (I went from 3 to 2 about a month ago).
Why am I so sad? I thought I would be thrilled to finally be done with the pumping....but part of me doesn't want to let go. I just want to cry.
[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 8:51 AM, August 14th (Wednesday)]
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
I'm kinda glad though.... and I'm "trying" not to be sad....just the end of a baby era I guess....
I remember doing alot of cuddling from age 1-5!!! I would just stop everything if anyone wanted to be rocked. I tried to stay in the moment because I knew it would be gone one day. (My sister says having grandchildren is awesome because her grandson looks just like her son did and she can cuddle and hug just like it were yesterday!)
I think I never tried to lose my pregnancy weight because I was so happy being pregnant! marriage wasn't great, but being pregnant was awesome.
Youngest is 13 I think I better get over it! LOL
[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 10:27 AM, August 14th (Wednesday)]
me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
I nursed all three of my babies for 2-3 years each, including nursing my middle right through my 3rd pregnancy and then tandem nursing both of them for a year!!!
Mind you, the first 6-12 months of nursing was intended to nourish my children...but the rest was really just for my sanity.
How do you get a baby to be quiet if you need to have an important phone conversation? How do get a wandering toddler to fall back asleep at 2 am in 2 minutes flat? How do you comfort the bumps and bruises? How do you get your kid to take a nap?
There's so much wonderment still to come. I know it's hard to let our littles detach, but I promise you will stand amazed at what is yet to come.
When you start to feel sad, think about all the hard work it's been to pump, freeze, and fill bottles -- look at your precious child, and pat yourself on the back!!! YOU DID THAT, MAMA!!!! Your dedication and willingness to overcome challenges (working FT while being a breastfeeding mom is TOUGH!) has given your baby a great start to life :)
Bravo for the 12 awesome months you've shared and CHEERS to the awesome road ahead!
You know what? It IS sad that she is weaning. And you should be upset because it was so beautiful and important. But you know what isn't sad? You freaking did it!! Don't forget that part! You did it!!! And that is freaking amazing!! Freaking hell yeah!!!!
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
Blame it on your hormones, I always did
I gave myself permission to mourn the end of nursing. With each baby, though, if I'd known that *that* time was going to be their last time, I'd have paid more attention to it. Kept more of that time in my heart. But really I only *knew* for the last baby, and that's because the other two had self-weaned and I could recognize the signs. So I knew when she detached that last time that it was the last time. We shared a long, lingering milk-induced contented look. Then she was off and I wept.
It's a rite of passage, Hon. (((HUGS)))
It is sad, but you'll be ok and you'll still be close.
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
There are so many stages, so many things to say goodbye to when you're raising kids. It's always bittersweet, but there's always something new to look forward to (or at least to cope with!)
(((Shelly))) Have I told you that you're doing an amazing job, lately? Because you ARE!
Thank you. This made me cry....but in a good way. My own mom doesn't even recognize how difficult it has been for me sticking with the breastfeeding and pumping this long. She thinks I should have quit and gone to formula. I'm glad I didn't.... I just hope I can make enough milk to make her happy at night when she wants to nurse for comfort for a while....I'm not quite ready to give it completely up yet... but the weaning process is difficult.... but I know it was inevitable..
Its definitely bittersweet.... I wish she could stay a baby forever! But, I know that's not realistic (just like I wish I could have stayed 29 forever...haha) But, I'm 34! Time ticks on! I will relish every last moment I have breastfeeding her until its finally over...
I'm still breastfeeding my daughter, but I haven't had to try to coordinate pumping and feeding...phew, that must be so much work and I feel proud of you that you did it for a whole year.
I know that I am already sad to think about the day that my daughter doesn't nurse anymore...I think part of that sadness is really a bit of fear. It is such a strong bond between us, and I am scared about how our relationship will change when we let it go. Also...she is a crazy busy toddler and it is really our only "down" time together these days. I hope that nursing gets replaced by snuggling...
Watching our kids grow up is so bittersweet!
Be proud, you have worked very hard to give her the tools for success. She is guiding you on what she needs and you are listening . THAT is laying the foundation for so much more sharing and closeness yet to come. This stage although bittersweet, will be replaced by another one. Mourn this one ending, but embrace the new one.
My 4 DDs all continued to cuddle away hurts until peer pressure told them to stop. We just continued in private. They are 22,22 20,18- we have our most in depth talks while sitting or laying on my bed. Not unlike when we were nursing-my bed was our afternoon nursing sessions.
The bond we forged changes, and morphs with each stage, but its still there. The foundation was laid a long time ago. I hope my girls are as aware of their babies needs as you are Pipers.
You are an extraordinary mom to a beautiful little girl, don't let anyone take that away from you!
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