On August 9 she posted that she and her BF had their relationship "tested" that week. She thought for sure she was going to lose him over something "crazy", but through everything, he had "unwavering trust" in her, and "never doubted" her.
This makes me sick. During the conversation I had with the BF, he denied any wrongdoing by his GF, so I know she has completely snowed him. It sounds like they have been really working on their relationship, so maybe she will stay away from my H. But her BF will never know what really happened (because I failed to save proof) and she got away with everything. So while I'm struggling, and wondering if I'll have trust my husband again, her BF isn't even thinking twice.
Arrg, I'm so angry now! I knew I shouldn't have looked!
married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m
"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."
thought for sure she was going to lose him over something "crazy",
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Maybe, maybe not. A life without consequences may lead to ever riskier behavior, and ever more serious consequences, when they do come. Keep your fingers crossed.
I'm so mad at myself for looking. I can't heal if I can't let her go. I just need to forget she exists... because in the happy marriage I'm working towards, she doesn't....
He's not thinking twice..now. But her behavior will eventually catch up with her..and he will realize he is with a cheating slut.
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Why not block her and have WH block her? That way you can't check, you can't see. NC=No new hurts!
Me- BW, 30
Him- fWh, 36
Mostly R'd, minus a few scars...bought a house and got a puppy...And baby makes 3! She arrived August 2013
Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!
[This message edited by krazy8516 at 10:54 AM, August 14th (Wednesday)]
Married 27 years. Together 29.
3 children 24, 21, 14
OW sex addict and romance addict according to MC. WH just your ordinary asshole.
Plus now I'm wondering if my WH doesn't check her page to keep tabs on her since "supposedly" initiating NC. I wish she'd make her page completely private, that way neither of us can snoop.
All you need to do is block her from both of your accounts. You won't be able to see her and she can't see you. It becomes like the accounts don't exist. Just keep in mind, people who stalk, tend to create a phony acct and you'd never know that name to block. Always set your FB to private for this reason.
As for her BF, he is probably struggling, not knowing what to believe. And while they may be advertising a united front publicly, in private. I think most of us BS's can attest he is probably living in hell. Once the doubt creeps in, it haunts you until the the full nightmare unfolds and plays out. I'd bet he's living in hell and she's living in her own little sweet denial.
*** Sex addiction is very real. I finally saw it first hand***