I'm 2.5 weeks in from d-day. I posted my story in the JFO forum , but I was wondering whether others who are hoping for R are in the same place as me.
In short, I found out my wife of 15 years had a 3 year affair with her business partner (this past year while she was being treated for metastatic cancer). We have three kids (15, 11, 10).
I have told her I am willing to R and forgive her. I do love her. She doesn't believe that I will ever forgive her and that with the time she might have remaining to live, the work that would be required to R would be too draining to her health, and we might never fully recover anyway. She is afraid of losing the support she had from her person both health-wise and also from the marriage issues we had.
So basically I am in limbo waiting for her to make a decision. And it sucks! One day I am confident and think that I can handle her choosing him, and the next (like today) missing her (she is away with her mother for 3 days).
If this cancer wasn't an issue I would feel more confident in pushing a separation. But thinking about my kids having to deal with both a potentially dying mother and a separation hurts. I can't imagine not helping her with the health issues.
I know that my story is probably very different from most, but I am wondering if anyone else here is dealing with a limbo issue and how you are handling it?