But do any of you feel the need to leave some sort of footprint behind? Maybe because I don't have kids I'm feeling like I haven't done anything truly exceptional with my life
I know I've impacted the lives of many by doing local volunteer work, being a great neighbor and friend. I'm kind to strangers and love animals. I've also done some pretty dangerous things...I can be a bit of a dare devil Which in itself is great, but what legacy will I leave behind?
Do any of you wonder about your end and what you will leave behind for people to remember you by?
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Maybe because I don't have kids I'm feeling like I haven't done anything truly exceptional with my life
But you, how could YOU! Wonder that???
You created a haven that has saved lives and the sanity of tens of thousands of people! Not just the posters but the lurkers.
Your pebble in the pond has created ripples that impact the world. By healing so many that go on to be better parents, spouses, friends that then impact others to be the same.
You and MH have a legacy most could never dream up.
That's not what I mean...LOL!! Not SI at all...but *me* the real person.
Don't we all have a plan laid out for us? Sometimes we know what the answers are and sometimes we never find out...I'm fine with that. I just want to make sure I've done something significant with the life I've been given.
Hey...I like your sig line
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However, I find it a little ironic that you are posting on a major footprint of your life.
Here at SI - the people you have helped and the way that you and your coherts keep it safe around here for all those involved in infidelity is huge.
I guess without knowing what you consider 'truely exceptional' I am at a loss at why what you do here, isn't considered that to you.
Something as simple as a new born baby's cry is exceptional, as is the simpleness of reaching 100 years old.
Oprah is exceptional, but so is an adult just learning to read.
I do not think that the world needs to know that you lived well, that you gave your time, that you LIVED - in order for you have a truely exceptional life.
But, if it really is bothering you. You have plenty of time to build a tomb, make arrangements to be mumified, so that in 2000 years, our future people will go through your tomb belongs and make up a story about you and how you lived.
Allow them to be unadulterated. "Ego" is the only one asking this question. Let it go unanswered; the question/answer is not what matters.
(And I hope you understand/see that - though I certainly could - why I'm not citing my own list of personal examples to answer the question. - And, yes, I know that's not what you're asking for either. )
You're so sweet...thank you
Some things happened yesterday that really bothered me, I had a pretty bad day. Then all these thoughts started swirling around in my head (more so than most days) and I realized...what have I done with my life? I live in one itty bitty part of the universe and wonder if there is something I'm not seeing that I should be doing.
I don't know...
I just want to make sure I've done something significant with the life I've been given.
You've done that through SI, though. I understand what you're saying, if you didn't have SI did you do what you're supposed to do, did you leave your mark? I think you did, I think SI was supposed to be your road, your journey.
At least that's just my understanding of your post.
You and MH have left enormous footprints in the Wincing Family's lives through this place.
Without you, we probably don't save our marriage.
Without you, our kids likely don't have an intact home, with all the risks and dangers to development and success that entails.
Without you, there's no home for my wife's niece's kids (who just came to live with us) to come to.
I don't know about you, but from my perspective, that's almost 3 generations of lives directly impacted by your caring, grace, diligence, and effort.
I'd call that a pretty damned impressive footprint.
I'm feeling like I haven't done anything truly exceptional with my life.
Most of us know you only as DS and, perhaps "_____", so you've got almost total anonymity, but founding SI sort of defines 'exceptional'.
I'd like to do something worth remembering, but it's not a need.
Life is all illusion anyway.
Having said that, I felt suddenly relaxed and wise and, strangely, young on my 50th birthday. Wait until the day, and you'll see.
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what have I done with my life?
You've made people feel loved, cared for and welcome. You've touched people's hearts and lives in a way I've not seen anybody else do. You've inspired others to be better people.
You are somebody I'll never forget and will always adore.
Plus, you throw one hell of a party
Oops, very sorry about the name
Thanks right now for all the work you guys do here.
Like others, even if SI is gone when you're gone, you've made an impact. Without SI I would've handled the aftermath of the 2A differently, even though I posted on other boards looking for help. SI brought me to the truth, helped me seek a healthy mindset. That has been such a boon to me and my kids. You can even imagine. Even if we end up D because MrH won't do his part in healing this M, it will be with me in a healthy place. Yes, I did the work (with a great IC) but SI started me on the path.
It reminds me of the end of Schindler's List. He said something like one more...he should've tried to save even one more. He felt like he didn't make enough of an impact. Then they showed the real survivors and their descendants placing stones on his grave.
When you're gone DS, you'll have a mound of stones marking your footprint. Members and their families who have managed to survive infidelity and the debilitating pain it causes. Those who have managed to deal with the unimaginable because of the support they found here. You used your pain, your mistakes, your struggles and helped thousands of people; that has rippled out further than you can imagine.
What happened yesterday and the events that unfolded really made me start to question my life and what I'm actually doing here. I don't want to feel this way...I don't like doubting and feeling sad....that's just not who I am, but I'm having a hard time shaking this off right now. Yesterday was a real eye-opener...unfortunately.
WAL...I'm always so touched when you post to me
I'm not sure what happened to you yesterday, but seriously you have changed lives, and probably saved a few with this site.
I know your post was not an opportunity to gather compliments, but you truly have done a wonderful service here, and I think you need to pat yourself on the back. Other mods have come and gone because this is a HUGE job. I can only imagine what goes on in the dungeon, and behind the scenes with 40,000 broken people to manage.
We bow to your averageness.
Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.
I have done the same as a physician to a smaller audience. I help others so that they then go on to help others. It's THE best thing we can do with our lives.
But I also hope you are able to see what an incredible, indelible, and immeasurable mark you have made on the lives that have been touched by SI.
"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana