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User Topic: Phone call tomorrow planned with exotic doctor......
She11ybeanz
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Wink  Posted: 8:53 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So.... this could be interesting....

I haven't had any real conquests on the O.L.D site in the last month....but now I have a guy that has moved to a city that's about 45 minutes to an hour away.... (not too bad) and he has the coolest name... I have to share...."Gonzalo" it sounds so sexy to me.... I like how it rolls off my tongue! And, I think he may be a doctor! He has on the site that his profession is in the "medical, dental, or veternary" field..and in a text today he mentioned that he watched a lot of horror movies during his residency.... (because I mentioned that I'm a huge horror movie fan)... but that is presumptuous... he may not be. Not that it really matters! But, it would be a huge jump from "sperm-donor-who-lives-in-mommy's-basement"

All in all... I'm going to go into this conversation and be myself and just see if we click.... and if it leads to a date....great! He is a runner too which is a HUGE plus!

This could be good.... and the UP side? I've never dated a Gonzalo.... and probably won't meet another one after this!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was a little confused by the title. First I thought that said exotic dancer. Then I thought it was about exotic animals and you have to call an exotics animal vet. Then I thought you were talking about exotic dancers that dress like doctors. Well, whoever you are going to talk to...good luck!


Me (BW): 32
WH: 34 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


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cayc
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Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read your title thinking what? Shelly's worried she's got a tropical disease???

I'm glad it's something much nicer. Keep us posted!


"I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship." - Louisa May Alcott

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ya'll are cracking me up! Maybe he's an exotic dancer in private..... KIDDING!!! I just think his name sounds exotic....

I definitely don't have an exotic disease.... thank goodness...


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was thinking witch doctor from the Amazon!

Enjoy your date!


BS, now age 54, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years M and 20 together. In some ways I have not 'gotten over it'. But I am resilient and have created a good life where I am mostly happy.

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 7:37 AM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Witch doctor....YIKES....

So far no date... just have a phone conversation planned for tonight...so we shall see where it goes. I have ZERO expectations. Just going with the flow!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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EvenKeel
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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you goggle your online guys?

By the time I talk to them, I have already figured out the basics.

With his name - he should be easy to find online.

Maybe he is an exotic vet? LOL


Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't vets also do a sort of residency?


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay....so I googled him...and found out he is a resident doctor at a family physician's office in the town he is living. Although a picture I found of him makes him look older than he said....and (not meaning to sound mean....but) he looks like a serial killer in the picture. Not smiling or anything....

Not really sure how I feel about this now..... and my inner chicken wants to run for the hills.... Maybe they aren't supposed to smile in those professional pics? His full name is extremely Spanish... and long.

UGH.... I don't know. I feel a little weary. He seemed so adamant to talk to me last night but I put him off to tonight....


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have you ever had a professional head shot taken? It's easy to come out looking like a serial killer. Think nervous adult + school photo day photographer.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I need to stop being so negative..... why do I always tend to sabotage myself?? I should probably just talk to him and see what happens right? He seems normal enough....

I hate it when I over-analyze things!!!!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
better4me
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Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Willing to take some advice from another overanalyzer? Lower your expectations. It's just a phone call. It's just a professional head shot. And perhaps it will be just a date.

I've gotten myself all worked up about any number of dates or phone calls etc. Both worked up in a "woo hoo!" excited way and in a "omg this sucks" negative way. I do so much better when I can just take it one day at a time and lower my expectations. I'm learning to even out the highs and the lows and to just enjoy the reality of "now"....

Gently here, I know you write that you have no expectations, and are going with the flow but I'm reading an emotional swing from positive to negative in just two days...take it from me, I've been there...taking it one day at a time and trying not to read too much into any of it, is all we can do.


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am just going to go through with the phone call and if we end up with a date...I'm just gonna go and have fun and try to enjoy myself! Worse thing that could happen is I lose a couple of hours of my life.... But, maybe it will be worth the chance!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 1:26 PM, August 15th (Thursday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Worse thing that could happen is I lose a couple of hours of my life...

Well, the worst thing that could happen is he turns out to actually be a serial killer and your life turns into the part that happens before a CSI episode starts. But that's extremely unlikely.

More realistically, remember that when you're on a date, you have your own company as well as his. I usually enjoyed myself on dates when I was doing the OLD thing, even if the guy was a dud. After all, I'm fun and fabulous! What's not to enjoy?


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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clralb
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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...."Gonzalo" it sounds so sexy to me....

Hmm. Makes me think of cheese.


"To keep the body in good health is a duty... otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear."
Buddha

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Made me think of the muppets, but to each their own :)

(Gonzo...that's a muppet, right? god it's a good thing I don't have children)


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Bravenewgirl
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Default  Posted: 6:34 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His full name is extremely Spanish... and long.

Maybe other parts of him are extremely long and Spanish too.

Just sayin'


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have to laugh. You've gone pretty in the past and now you're opening up to not-immediate-bam-chicka-bam-bam. I'm kind of the other way. The sad clown is the ugliest man I've ever been with.

I'm going pretty next time! The next fucker to break my heart is at least going to give me something pretty to look at whilst my heart is being broken!!

In all seriousness - attraction is important but I've found myself gravitating towards those with the prettiest minds lately. That wins over looks hands down any day of the week and its a different kind of attraction. Like a strong, low smoulder that warms your bones vs that flash of hot air that leaves you burned.

I like a man who gives good brain. The wrapping just needs to not be circus worthy.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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EvenKeel
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Default  Posted: 8:43 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well.......did you talk to him?


Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.


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alphakitte
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Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shellybeanz, I'll send you a PM shortly.


------ Some people are emotional tadpoles. Even if they mature they are just a warty toad. Catt

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