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She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 2:53 AM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
TattoodChinaDoll ( member #34602) posted at 3:02 AM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013
I was a little confused by the title. First I thought that said exotic dancer. Then I thought it was about exotic animals and you have to call an exotics animal vet. Then I thought you were talking about exotic dancers that dress like doctors. Well, whoever you are going to talk to...good luck!
Me: 35
WH: 37 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 6, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 3:12 AM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013
I read your title thinking what? Shelly's worried she's got a tropical disease???
I'm glad it's something much nicer. Keep us posted!
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 3:19 AM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 6:05 AM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013
I was thinking witch doctor from the Amazon!
Enjoy your date!
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 1:37 PM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013
Witch doctor....YIKES....
So far no date... just have a phone conversation planned for tonight...so we shall see where it goes. I have ZERO expectations. Just going with the flow!
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 4:23 PM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013
Do you goggle your online guys?
By the time I talk to them, I have already figured out the basics.
With his name - he should be easy to find online.
Maybe he is an exotic vet? LOL
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 5:11 PM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013
Don't vets also do a sort of residency?
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 6:28 PM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013
Okay....so I googled him...and found out he is a resident doctor at a family physician's office in the town he is living. Although a picture I found of him makes him look older than he said....and (not meaning to sound mean....but) he looks like a serial killer in the picture. Not smiling or anything....
Not really sure how I feel about this now..... and my inner chicken wants to run for the hills....
Maybe they aren't supposed to smile in those professional pics? His full name is extremely Spanish... and long.
UGH.... I don't know. I feel a little weary. He seemed so adamant to talk to me last night but I put him off to tonight....
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 6:52 PM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013
Have you ever had a professional head shot taken? It's easy to come out looking like a serial killer. Think nervous adult + school photo day photographer.
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 6:54 PM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013
I need to stop being so negative..... why do I always tend to sabotage myself?? I should probably just talk to him and see what happens right? He seems normal enough....
I hate it when I over-analyze things!!!!
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 7:25 PM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013
Willing to take some advice from another overanalyzer? Lower your expectations. It's just a phone call. It's just a professional head shot. And perhaps it will be just a date.
I've gotten myself all worked up about any number of dates or phone calls etc. Both worked up in a "woo hoo!" excited way and in a "omg this sucks" negative way. I do so much better when I can just take it one day at a time and lower my expectations. I'm learning to even out the highs and the lows and to just enjoy the reality of "now"....
Gently here, I know you write that you have no expectations, and are going with the flow but I'm reading an emotional swing from positive to negative in just two days...take it from me, I've been there...taking it one day at a time and trying not to read too much into any of it, is all we can do.
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 7:25 PM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013
I am just going to go through with the phone call and if we end up with a date...I'm just gonna go and have fun and try to enjoy myself! Worse thing that could happen is I lose a couple of hours of my life.... But, maybe it will be worth the chance!
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"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 8:00 PM on Thursday, August 15th, 2013
Worse thing that could happen is I lose a couple of hours of my life...
Well, the worst thing that could happen is he turns out to actually be a serial killer and your life turns into the part that happens before a CSI episode starts. But that's extremely unlikely.
More realistically, remember that when you're on a date, you have your own company as well as his. I usually enjoyed myself on dates when I was doing the OLD thing, even if the guy was a dud. After all, I'm fun and fabulous! What's not to enjoy?
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
clralb ( member #17185) posted at 12:42 AM on Friday, August 16th, 2013
...."Gonzalo" it sounds so sexy to me....
Hmm. Makes me think of cheese.
"To keep the body in good health is a duty... otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear."
Buddha
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 2:53 AM on Friday, August 16th, 2013
Made me think of the muppets, but to each their own :)
(Gonzo...that's a muppet, right?
god it's a good thing I don't have children)
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Bravenewgirl ( member #36267) posted at 12:34 PM on Friday, August 16th, 2013
His full name is extremely Spanish... and long.
Maybe other parts of him are extremely long and Spanish too.
Just sayin'
Don't come around here no more
-Tom Petty
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 2:01 PM on Friday, August 16th, 2013
I have to laugh. You've gone pretty in the past and now you're opening up to not-immediate-bam-chicka-bam-bam. I'm kind of the other way. The sad clown is the ugliest man I've ever been with.
I'm going pretty next time! The next fucker to break my heart is at least going to give me something pretty to look at whilst my heart is being broken!!
In all seriousness - attraction is important but I've found myself gravitating towards those with the prettiest minds lately. That wins over looks hands down any day of the week and its a different kind of attraction. Like a strong, low smoulder that warms your bones vs that flash of hot air that leaves you burned.
I like a man who gives good brain. The wrapping just needs to not be circus worthy.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 2:43 PM on Friday, August 16th, 2013
Well.......did you talk to him?
alphakitte ( member #33438) posted at 2:49 PM on Friday, August 16th, 2013
Shellybeanz, I'll send you a PM shortly.
------ Some people are emotional tadpoles. Even if they mature they are just a warty toad. Catt
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