Me: BW (35)
In the future, you are welcome to let me know in advance what days and times are best for you. However, I will accept what time they have open that will work best for the kids. I will always inform you when their appointments are.
This is kind of difficult. I really only talk to him via email due to his controlling behavior and wanting to get everything in writing. Since the drive is over an hour his convenience wouldn't be mine. I like the kids to have the first appointments of the day so they don't miss school or disrupt their day. He doesn't get up very early...never has.
Do you share legal custody? I would let all of your doctor's know that he should not be allowed to change anything.
We have joint legal custody but in any evasive procedures.. Medical, educational, etc i get to make the decision after "consulting with him".
I feel like telling the doctors that unless the appointment is made or canceled by me personally to not allow it. I don't want to scare off the medical profession but I don't want his narcissism to ruin things for me and the kids.
What should I say about moving this appointment?
I already replied once with:
I'm sorry but I really can't change the appointment. Since school is starting soon a lot of people are trying to squeeze in appointments, like myself. I made it on a day that DS and DD would both be available and able to be seen back to back. I have also had to make several other arrangements that revolve around the appointment time.
He then replied if I had even asked the doctor if there were opening on Friday and if so he would take them himself.
The issue is that when their schedule is disturbed too much it makes it hard for them to not get super wound up. He is already coming down Friday afternoon for DS's school orientation. So what he wants is to take them to the dentist, spend the day with them, and then be at the orientation.
Just to say he has been difficult about everything with me. Every time I have been nice to him he has turned around and screwed me over.
I don't want to change the kids' appointments I made the appointments when I wanted. I was being generous by telling him before the fact that the kids were going to the dentist.
He refuses to take the kids to their appts when they are in his custody but when I take them during my time he in turns wants to spend extra time with them. I don't have a problem with this but he doesn't tell me he is coming... I have to find out from my 6 year old and then he asks for extra time in FRONT of the kids which makes me the bad guy if I say no.
During facetime he has even promised the kids I would give them treats if they eat what he tells them to but they are in MY house.
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012
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