Me BS (41)
I am sorry for your pain phoenixrivers.
It takes two people who genuinely believe in their relationship to R.
You both need to want to have an honest future together.
Only you can know if you two are both ready to do this.
Trust your heart, trust your gut on your assessment of readiness to R.
It will mean that anything to do with the OP needs to be cut from your life. The OP can not be your focus- I like the SI term of OP goes under the bus...
You two need to focus on you two only and your relationship for R to work.
Hopefully some more enlightened SI souls can give you better advice.
Take care of yourself phoenixrivers.
Him WH (45). EA and possible PA (denied)
D Day 7/21/2013
M 8 years - filing for D
**The cruelest lies are often told in silence- Robert Louis Stevenson