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newlysingle posted 8/15/2013 00:36 AM

So STBX picked up dd to go to dinner tonight (we've been gone all summer visiting family out of state). I knew he was going to introduce OW tonight, I just had a feeling, so I mentally prepared myself.

Well, he took dd to dinner alone, but then brought her to a park and what a shocker, OW just happened to show up with her two dogs. DD told me that she was wearing a Hello Kitty shirt (ARYFKM?? nice desperate attempt to win over my 5 year old). I had already told DD about OW last night and that she lived with Daddy now, so she was aware. She didn't give much other info. She was far more excited about the dogs than OW.

The interesting thing is that I now know that OW has been living with him far longer that he admitted to. He told me she moved here in June. Well as far back as March, right after dday when he moved out. DD went to his apartment one day. She mentioned his two dogs and that they belonged to the woman that lived upstairs. Well, well how ironic is it that these dogs are the same two dogs that were at daddy's old apartment! So that dipshit passed off the two dogs and OW as the "woman upstairs".

Despite all of it, I'm doing okay today. I was so nervous about this day, but I'm glad it's finally over. I wasn't home when he dropped dd off tonight, but my mom was. She told me that dd ran in the house wanting to see me. So, I guess I'm still pretty important to her.

Oh, and if you're wondering why he didn't take her overnight. You might remember me from a previous post that this dipshit and OW rented a house with no pool barrier. I have an infant son who is about to start walking. Not only is it illegal here, but of course very dangerous to not have one. So, I have put my foot down about no visitation at his home with either child until a pool barrier is in place. He says he's "working on it". Whatever, we'll see about that.

AStar posted 8/15/2013 02:31 AM

(((Newlysingle)))
I am so sorry that you are going through this.
Please take care of yourself and your family. It may be in the back of your mind but your children will always love you as their Mom. OW can not replace you.
That your STBXH was lying about the OW moving in sooner- bottom line is that they lie! It doesn't matter any more. Let them construct their fantasy world on a foundation of lies.
Most important thing is to take care of yourself and your beautiful kids.

[This message edited by AStar at 3:05 AM, August 15th (Thursday)]

SBB posted 8/15/2013 02:56 AM

Cheaters lie - liars cheat.

I was a hot mess in the lead up to the introduction 20 weeks after S. the only thing worse than those whores being around my precious little girls is the thought of someone being unkind to them.

I'd report him to the local council personally - no overnights doesn't mean he won't take your kids back to his place during his visitation time.

What an irresponsible arse.

Nature_Girl posted 8/15/2013 03:14 AM

no overnights doesn't mean he won't take your kids back to his place during his visitation time.

I agree. Right now his place has a mortal danger to the children any time they are there. You need to put your other foot down and let him know that HELLO NO KITTY, your babies won't be going to his place until that barrier is up and he has PROOF that it's up.

newlysingle posted 8/16/2013 00:39 AM

Ha, ha. I love this site! I am ROFL about Hello NO Kitty!

No worries about the pool barrier. I have made it crystal clear that visitation isn't going to happen until that is up. My attorney notified him that it wasn't legal and I sent him a copy of the actual law. He had to finance a pool fence (because he and OW are up to their eyeballs in debt), but is having one installed on Saturday. I told him that I would not allow the kids to go over there until I could see the fence in person. He offered a photo, but I said that wasn't good enough. So no pool fence, no visits. I let dd go to dinner with him last night, but said that visitation stops until he has a pool barrier.

In the midst of all of this, I think you guys have helped me officially create nicknames for these two idiots. I've called them a variety of names, but I think Hello Kitty is a perfect name for her. Today I referred to him as gnat to my mom. I think it fits him well, so I now have Hello Kitty and the Gnat.

amitheow posted 8/16/2013 10:06 AM

Gnat?

Eh I refferred to mine as the Maggot. Much more discriptive!

tesla posted 8/16/2013 10:20 AM

Sounds like you handled it well. And no amount of hello kitty shirts and cute little puppies are going to replace you.

StillLivin posted 8/16/2013 12:33 PM

Grrrrrrr
I'm mad for you.

Call her twinkie. Nothing in the middle and all bad for you.

My BFF's OW, that's what she called her! It stuck and now my STBXH's OW is also twinkie or ding dong. Depends on how I'm feeling that day!

gek9742000 posted 8/19/2013 20:56 PM

Oh no - my daughter is also 5yrs and she told me tonight about "a girl" who slept with daddy and had Hello Kitty (something). I was only half listening because I was too busy getting nauseous. Gah! I was not mentally prepared for that.

byod02 posted 8/19/2013 21:18 PM

I am not looking forward to that day. It makes me sick to think of that morally bankrupt home wrecker being anywhere near my sweet children. :(

Nature_Girl posted 8/19/2013 21:26 PM

In my case one of the OW is a heroin dealer/convicted felon. What kind of snappy nickname can we coin for her? Another one is an actual prostitute. Someone here already took OWhora. I used to call my STBX Perv, but then someone else came on & took that name over.

I think the players in my drama are just too sick & perverted.

FaithFool posted 8/19/2013 21:33 PM

How about McNastysack?

Nature_Girl posted 8/19/2013 21:40 PM

EWwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!!!! ROTFLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Bravenewgirl posted 8/20/2013 06:45 AM

Naturegirl: How about Whory McCrimePants?

Its my favorite nickname formula: Just add a Y to the end of the first nasty word, then a Mc to the start of the second nasty word, and finish up with a pants.

Works for almost anything.

Skanky McJunkiepants, etc etc.