Me 37 BGF
Everybody on SI has said RUN, end it, cut your losses... I have decided to R. I know it may be a mistake and against better advice, but I am willing to try.
Short background: my wayward fiancÚ was caught in an inappropriate email exchange with an ex girlfriend. His history should be a red flag or running shoes for anyone. D three times, infidelity in various marriages, ONS during S, bad relationship choices (previous girlfriend was druggie and alcoholic). Yeah, reads like a nightmare...
His issues are bad or no boundaries and he knows this now, external validation, using As as an escape...
But he is a changed person - or so I choose to believe.
We have been through a really difficult period and he realizes the destructive nature of his past, the hurt caused and his own ignorance. He is committed to working on himself and our relationship.
Right now, I am not sure if I will marry him. He is going to have to earn my trust back. In some ways I still struggle to deal with the hurt caused by the emails - yes it was an EA, even if he didnt see the harm at the time. He does now.
Our relationship - the happiness and love we share is worth fighting for and committing to.
Yes, it's a difficult path to travel along R, but we want to.
Hopefully we can make it work. We want it to. He knows there will be no next time or mistake.
I am grateful to those who have shared their insights with me. Hopefully you are not offended by the path I chose. I will still count on my SI friends for their wisdom and support - and hopefully it will not be "I told you so..."
[This message edited by SilverFlame at 4:16 AM, August 15th (Thursday)]
Relationship of two years.
Him: inappropriate emails with ex girlfriend. She was OW during his last marriage. OW- skank with no morals or ethics (personal or professional)
D-Day mid July 2013