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User Topic: Finally I can say this is R!
♀ 39588
Member # 39588
Default  Posted: 7:01 AM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The first couple of months were hell. Although H confessed the morning after and immediately went NC I truly feel he didn't get it until recently. Yesterday we were home alone for the first day since Dday (all kids in school and him off work for the day) and we had the most amazing day.

We talked all day about the A, about his FOO issues and everything else. We had MC and it was great. We connected so well. He is constantly apologizing, doing whatever I need and realizes this is a lifetime thing and we have a long way to go.

I think the key for me is that he knows and is seeing the pain he caused. He says he knows he can't change the past but will do whatever it takes to ensure this never happens again.

Me (BS): 36
Him aka narcissistic psychopath (WS): 36
Married 17 years 6 kids ages 16-7
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

Filed for divorce 5/8/15

Posts: 326 | Registered: Jun 2013
♀ 31528
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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like a perfect day. What a wonderful update.

Posts: 50813 | Registered: Mar 2011
♂ 36622
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BS 42
fWS 38 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2859 | Registered: Aug 2012
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Member # 37575
Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome, yes I agree you (and a lot of us) have a long way to go, but it's great to hear you felt a "connection". Personally I think that's a big deal in itself.
You are both moving in the right direction, together!
Thanks for sharing.

Me: BW Him: FWH in our 50's
DDay June 1st 2012
cheated with prostitutes overseas

Posts: 700 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
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