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Aubrie posted 8/15/2013 09:49 AM

about your BS?

My list today:

His ability to make anyone, regardless of ones occupation or class, feel accepted and appreciated.

His quirky sense of humor. Most people wouldn't understand it or think it's funny. But he makes me laugh. And we have fun.

How he isn't ashamed to watch sappy Jane Austen movies with me on his days off.

His strength. How he is able to take the pressure of providing for our family daily, plus handle the emotional trauma of FOO and my As is beyond me. I can see the exhaustion in his eyes, yet he marches on.

The way he smells when we go on dates. That cocktail of cologne mixed with his skin? Fragrance of the gods. *swoon*

His willingness to work on this relationship with me. Lord knows it would have been much easier for him to cut his losses and walk away. Yet here he is.

How he allowed me to download Avocado on both our phones, promptly sent me hugs and kisses thru it, and continues to do so daily. Corny? Maybe. We love it.

His integrity. Nuff said.

EmotionalFool posted 8/15/2013 10:24 AM

The twinkle in his eyes ( I did not realize how much I loved it until it disappeared afte Dday )

His childish charm

The way he gets excited about every small thing

His patience

The way he laughs uncontrollably at his own PJs (I don’t really like his PJs but I love the way he enjoys them)

MissesJai posted 8/15/2013 10:31 AM

His humor
His smile
His calm demeanor
He loves me
His patience
His intelligence
His wit
He is the master of random facts - ask him anything about anything and he likely knows the answer
His perseverance
He touches me any chance he gets
His commitment to our relationship and family

TimeToManUp posted 8/15/2013 10:39 AM

Her twisted sense of humor.

Her smile.

Her curvy, womanly figure.

Her curry chicken.

Her tolerance for and weird appreciation of my dorky hobbies.

Her knowledge of Simpson trivia and quotes.

Her intelligence.

Her sense of duty.

Her singing voice.

... Just to name a few.

Smileemptysoul posted 8/15/2013 11:01 AM

Her unselfishness when it comes to wanting to make others happy.

Her soft and subtle curves.

Her uncanny ability to brew the perfect pot of coffee.

Her eyes...which before were electric and life and vibrancy, yet now are clouded and filled with sadness instead.

DeMinxed posted 8/15/2013 11:12 AM

-His unconditional love for me
-His ability to make me laugh even when I don't want to.
-His #1 priority is to provide for our family and make me happy
-His strength
-His childish, fun side

lostmylight55 posted 8/15/2013 11:49 AM

The short list:

I Love her huge eyes, especially when she smiles.

I Love her huge breasts too, they make me smile.

I Love the way the corner of her mouth smiles in the morning when she is barely awake and I kiss her.

I Love her wicked sense of humor.

I Love seeing the excitement in her face when she sees wildlife on our nature outings and in the backyard.

I Love how Freaking Adorable she is.

I Love her strength.

I Love how hard she tries in our relationship.

(edited for poor spelling)

[This message edited by lostmylight55 at 12:33 PM, August 15th (Thursday)]

rachelc posted 8/15/2013 12:18 PM

-his body and the way it feels when I snuggle next to him.

-the way he thinks himself through a crisis... he's a strategizer. I'm impulsive.

-he's a financial genius

-his hair -a full head of blonde hair at age 51, but the beard is getting grey and I think it's cute.

-how our DDs have him wrapped around their fingers - still, at age 24.

-when he folds clothes he folds my underwear, even though I've told him many times to just throw them in the drawer... he still folds them. ha!

-how he loads the dishwasher. it has to be done with mathematical precision. I just gave up because he would reload it anyway. So, I NEVER have to do that job!

-when we have pets he cleans up after them because he still misses the "chores" he had when he grew up on a farm.

[This message edited by rachelc at 12:20 PM, August 15th (Thursday)]

JustDesserts posted 8/15/2013 12:29 PM

Her ability to see the good in me, and to believe in me, even when I have been unable to do either of those things for myself, for her, and for us.

Her brains.

Her generosity.

Her unconditional love.

Her strength.

Her patience.

Her selflessness.

Her class.

Her ability to truly forgive ("Forgiveness isn't for wimps")

Her cooking.

Her laugh.

Her heart.

Oh, and those long slender legs supporting the tall beautiful drink of water that is her...capped off by intelligent, deep blue pools for eyes...and an easy smile that lights up the world around her.

JD

Oh, and she watches sappy Jane Austen movies with me, though I draw the line at her requests for me to put on a white dress shirt, dive into a murky pond, and emerge matted and wet like Colin Firth in the BBC's legendary 1995 "Pride & Prejudice".

HisCheekster posted 8/15/2013 13:03 PM

- His smile
- His ability to make me smile everyday
- His beautiful dimples
- His sense of humour
- His kindness
- His loving eyes
- How wonderful a Daddy he is
- And an equally amazing husband
- His thoughtfulness
- How he makes me feel safe
- His big hands
- His tummy (my, I love his tummy!)
- His attitude to life
- That he is my best friend
- How he puts my feelings before his own
- His cute laugh
- His even cuter squeaky voice when he adds emphasis to his words
- How handsome he is
- How gentle he is
- That he tells me he loves me everyday
- His cup of tea making
- His love for films
- His gentle touch
- How he spends so much time trying to think of ways to make me smile
- How I believe he is my one true love and always will be

I could go on and on forever, and I intend to, but I'll keep that between him and I for fear of boring you guys

knightsbff posted 8/15/2013 13:36 PM

His smile
His intelligence
His humor
His sweetness
His scent
His kindness
His sense of duty
His adventurousness
His singing
His silliness
His insistence on being a gentleman and always treating me like a lady
So much more...

RemorsefulWH posted 8/15/2013 15:07 PM

Her willingness to work at R
Her kind heart
Her honesty
Her body
Her smile
Her sense of humour
How trustworthy she is
How genuine she is
How supportive she is
Her inquisitive nature

Tesseract posted 8/15/2013 16:58 PM

This is an excellent thread idea!

Her voice. It's beyond beautiful. I love that it's the first and last thing I hear every day.

Her intellect. It is stunning how smart she is. Know that feeling you get when you're next to a generator? That thrumming energy? That's what it's like watching her think.

Her optimism. She sees the best in everyone and every situation. The exact opposite of what I've spent most of my time doing. I am endlessly grateful that she helps me to see the beauty in everything.

Her beauty. She's ridiculously gorgeous. There are times (S.D. beach) that I literally can see nothing else but her and am left stunned and breathless by how lovely she is. How lucky I am.

Watching her interact with our kids is a thing of glory. She's so natural, so effortless in everything she does. She can win anyone over with ridiculous ease.

The connections she makes are lightning quick. She'll often predict things before they happen. Being near her is like being near a high energy reactor. That thrumming power is exactly the same.

Her openness of perspective. This bears some explaining: She questions everything but does it without any sort of agenda or bias for her own stake in it. This humility allows her to make those connections that I mentioned. Its something I greatly admire and struggle to imitate.

As freely as she accepts information, sifting it like a gold rush miner, she gives it without seeking the implant a personal agenda. It's something so rare that for a long time I couldn't (or rather was to arrogant to) accept it. It has been such a blessing to the lives of everyone around her.

Seeing her apply her skills to anything she sets her mind to. She always excels at everything she does.

Her love for me. I am humbled and amazed by the depths of her love for me. She proves this every day through her words and actions. I am so grateful for her. Even through all of this I often find her comforting me.

She is a wonderful, amazing person. I could not be happier than when I am with her.

[This message edited by Tesseract at 8:51 PM, August 15th (Thursday)]

Aubrie posted 8/15/2013 16:59 PM

Literally lol'd JD. BTW, that's the best P&P adaption. Just finished Persuasion. That was interesting.

Love reading everyone's list and the standard "These are just a few" disclaimers.

silverhopes posted 8/15/2013 18:15 PM

His thoughtfulness
His good memory for little details that make things special
His sense of humor
When he affectionately moos at me or our son
His kindness when he makes us food
His thoughtfulness for cleaning the room almost every day without hesitation
His interesting mind
His storytelling
His amazing green eyes
His love of comics
His understanding and making of obscure comic, movie, or video game references
His love of adventure and making trips fun
His willingness to learn new things
His nurturing nature, toward the cats and toward my Nana
His patience (sometimes and in certain areas - inspiring)
His warmth when we snuggle
His teamwork (when he's into it, it's one of the best feelings)
His patience in understanding others, whether they're having a bad day or are disabled too
His consideration for others
Did I mention his creative thinking? I love his mind.
His teasing

Probably a lot more... Hard to describe. He's just special.

ETA: Oh yeah, definitely his cologne! Didn't realize how much of a turn on cologne is until he came into my life.

[This message edited by silverhopes at 6:20 PM, August 15th (Thursday)]

JustDesserts posted 8/15/2013 18:30 PM

Literally lol'd JD. BTW, that's the best P&P adaption. Just finished Persuasion. That was interesting.

Jane Austen is worth a quick t/j. The 1996 made for TV "Emma" with Kate Beckinsale and Mark Strong is really good. His proposal scene is so damn romantic. And she can say more with a turned up eyebrow or lip flutter than many actresses can with their own entire bodies, and their body double's bodies.

There's a great book about the making of the P&P adaptation which goes into the casting, the production, set design and location choices, the dialogue, the dance scenes, etc. etc. Jennifer Ehle was a controversial choice, and Colin StudFirth was a nearly unknown who couldn't ride. He, btw, was on Leno once and I have rarely seen such a self effacing, truly funny dude. Just spun some great stories, funny as heck, about moving into a new home in London, and getting locked out in the backyard naked and the neighbor he's never met's cat coming over, and the neighbor yelling "here, kitty, kitty". And the cat going "Meow, meow" from Firth's side of the fence...well, you get the picture. But the book is great, really interesting. Amazing what they put into that production.

And how about this for putting it all on the line, for love. Mr. Darcy, on like fourth down and 42, down 6 points with the Super Bowl on the line, busts out to Miss Bennett:

"You are too generous to trifle with me. If your feelings are what they were last April (Note: when she rejected a prideful and prejudiced marriage proposal from Darcy) you must tell me so at once. My affections and wishes are unchanged. (Pause) But one word from you will silence me on this subject forever".

Spoiler Alert: He marries the girl.

End t/j

KBeguile posted 8/15/2013 20:15 PM

I love her smile.
I love her laugh.
I love the sense of humor she has.
I love her ability to perform titration chemistry whilst improvising J.S. Bach ... and then make a fart joke.
I love her tenacity and drive to get things done when she has a mind to.
I love how well-read and cultured she is.
I love her insight, her intellect, and her intuition.
I love her morals and her logic.

stilllovinghim posted 8/15/2013 22:35 PM

That he is him and nobody else. I love that no one else gets to know him and love him like I do. I love that he is himself always. I love him for who he is, what he's done and whatever he will do. I love him for being our sons best role-model for being a husband, a father and a man. I love him because he exists. I love him because he is him and nobody else.

[This message edited by stilllovinghim at 10:35 PM, August 15th (Thursday)]

1sorryGDF posted 8/16/2013 13:45 PM

Her smile and her laughter (two things I haven't seen nearly as much of since dday, which is a true shame)
Her strength
Her willingness to do what's best for us even when it's so much harder
Her dedication and loyalty
Her gorgeous eyes
Her smooth legs
The way she smells when I climb into bed with her
The look in here eyes when I tell her she's beautiful
The way she makes me laugh
The way she raises our children
Her thoughtfulness
Her grace
The way she hold me accountable to the standards I left behind for so long
Her patience with me in life and in the kitchen
Her beauty
Her love for our family
Her everything

rachelc posted 8/16/2013 13:54 PM

Tesseract - does she know you feel this way? That was pretty in depth. print this off and give it to her, maybe??