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When does TT end?(WS welcomed)

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Yakamishi posted 8/15/2013 17:01 PM

We are almost 11 months out. (dressing the approaching anti-versary). Any rate, when does the TT end? WW and I are making progress, but my doubts on her being COMPLETELY honest continue to get the best of me. She finally consented to a poly but I canceled it due to the cost, but more so I was afraid of the worst case scenario, if another affair comes to light. I don't believe for a second it's a possibility, but I couldn't handle that if it came to light. (Heh, gee, where have we heard that before?). At any rate, when does it become "safe" to believe you got the worst of it?

TICKED OFF posted 8/15/2013 17:07 PM

For me it never really ended. It kind of went through stages. It went from TT for many years, to just plain out not admitting the truth, to just not saying anything about the whole messy affair, to always being defensive about anything to do with any affair (TV, movies, h's own a, or even just a friend's a), to absolutely shutting completely up when it was/or still is mentioned.

So the way I see it nine years later is that h will never ever tell the truth which is why it is so vitally important to get it from the very start.

Undone1 posted 8/15/2013 19:00 PM

Did she do a time line?

Card posted 8/15/2013 19:09 PM

It ends when you stop asking questions....

There's always going to be something, some detail, some thought she had, some person she ran into and forgot about during the A, etc. etc. etc...

When I finally did a polygraph and she could put her mind to rest about all the worst case scenarios, she was also able to stop the mental barrage of questions (you know, the ones that were never asked, but danced in her head everyday)

I highly recommend the poly. It is just as important for the wayward to show that they are telling you the truth as it is for you to know you have the truth.

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