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User Topic: what defines an std? tmi
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 6:09 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I debated over whether.I should post or maybe keep it PM. Well here goes...I have had these little bumps in pubic area. At first I thought maybe an ingrown hair. Each day its spreads a littler more. Now its getting on my lower abdomen. It itches like crazy but hurts too. I've stopped using fabric softener because I had tried a new one and thought I was allergic
I've used anti itch..benadryl, hydrocortisone cream..not helping.
They look like tiny red bumps that are now turning into blisters on top. I'm freaking the fuck out. I googled and found pix of scabies. The pix look just like what I have. Omg I'm a clean freak, use bleach to clean my bathroom and kitchen and change my sheets often. I haven't been to a hotel or spent the night anywhere.
Where could this have come from..is it an STD? I have never ever had any type of problems like this. I'm so glad this site is anonymous because I am so effin embarrassed I am afraid to go to the Dr for fear of him thinking I'm dirty or something. Could my ws have given me this?.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5238 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very gently, you need to go to the doctor. IT could be an STD, it could be an allergic reaction, is could be ingrown hairs...

Doctors have seen it all, they will not judge you. If you are really nervous, you can go anonymously to a clinic like Planned Parenthood and just pay out of pocket.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
LadyQ
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Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Could even be a yeast based rash. Think "jock itch". It's not necessarily sexually transmitted, it just needs a moist environment and an overgrowth of the yeast fungus (fed by a diet high in sugar by the way).


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

Posts: 1650 | Registered: Jul 2011
Ostrich80
34827
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Default  Posted: 6:33 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Guess I'll go to a clinic..DAMMMMMIT I don't need this right now. Just thought ws because we have not had sex in so long for fear of not.knowing wtf he's doing and we did 2 weeks ago. I regretted it immediately...just my luck..I'm shleprock


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5238 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
sadone29
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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It sounds like a yeast rash to me. My kids would get them occasionally from their diapers. Could just be from sweating more from summer weather or working out, etc. I would definitely get it checked just in case though. I know how you feel...I'm getting checked for sti's next week.

Sorry you're going through this.

[This message edited by sadone29 at 10:55 AM, August 16th (Friday)]


DDay Feb. 28, 2013
"I am pretty sure enforcing the boundary is the most important part of the boundary"- Jerry Seinfeld
Can't wait to D, but stuck financially until I find a way out of this SAHM position I'm in.

Posts: 793 | Registered: Mar 2013
Tred
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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd see a doctor - almost sounds like shingles.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 4079 | Registered: Dec 2011
Morhurt
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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not sure if you and WS are in R, but if you are I think you should share this with him.
I recently had something going on that was causing me discomfort in the vag area and I told H. I'm sure it had nothing to do with A but either way I wanted/needed extra support. He ended up coming with me to a different dr so I could have STD tests and not have to do it alone. Things like that show me he cares. And me asking for support allows him to help me.
Just a thought.
I hope it's nothing.


Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 960 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
cancuncrushed
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had this exact situation. Went thru all the humiliating explanations with gyno. Turns out, it was yeast. It was from my H. I remember the "accidental encounter". It was on my lower thigh?????? He was using gym/locker/skiiing everday. Very common in gym areas.....THen I met a friend whose H was also cheating, she had same yeast encounter. He also used the gym. So some questions are answered, some new ones come up. Thats my world.

[This message edited by cancuncrushed at 11:53 AM, August 16th (Friday)]


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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh no, that sounds so uncomfortable. I'm glad you decided to see a doctor.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

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BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That doesn't sound like an STI to me, but definitely is something you should see a doctor about.

If you haven't already been tested since the affair, might be a good idea. DON'T BE EMBARRASSED!!! I work at a clinic and we see all sorts of things come through the door. I have never negatively judged a pt. who came in after being cheated on to get checked. My response has ALWAYS


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


Posts: 840 | Registered: Jan 2013
BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*ALWAYS been, "Wow, that is very smart and healthy for you to do."

Or you don't even have to tell the staff why you are getting an STI check. Sometimes, those are good to get regularly (I personally get checked yearly regardless).


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


Posts: 840 | Registered: Jan 2013
hangingontohope7
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Default  Posted: 11:57 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Go to the doctor. Trust me, they will not judge you. I just had to go for STD testing (for the second time in 5 years thanks to STBXWH). My OB/GYN was extremely understanding. He told me that I am not alone, many women come into his office who are dealing with infidelity. Doctors have seen it all.

You will feel better if you simply go.


Me: BW
DDay #1 Tried R
DDAY #2 Divorcing

Burn everything love then burn the ashes.


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