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User Topic: Oh My Goodness Work is Hard!
♀ 40219
Member # 40219
Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Went to work today and thought I was doing pretty good. About 5 hours in I just about had a panic attack I ended up leaving a bit early and finishing work at home. It probably didn't help any that I saw OW outside my house this AM waiting for her kids to catch the bus. It's been a really tough day. It will be two weeks since DD on Saturday.

BS (34)
WS MisterP (37)
Together 14 1/2 years
D Day 03 Aug 13 EA & PA
D Day #2 01 Sep 13 continued EA & PA with OW
Slowly but surely finding my way.

Posts: 177 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Colorado Springs
♀ 30396
Member # 30396
Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs to you....I hope this evening is better. Are they supportive at work? or do they know?

Me-52 BS
Him 59-WS
Married 32 yrs, together 35
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1895 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
♀ 40219
Member # 40219
Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Only my boss and supervisor know. My team knows something is up, but not what. And my whole team is supportive so no issues there. It's just hard to keep functioning well when I am sleep deprived, my brain and emotions are fried, and I am behind.

BS (34)
WS MisterP (37)
Together 14 1/2 years
D Day 03 Aug 13 EA & PA
D Day #2 01 Sep 13 continued EA & PA with OW
Slowly but surely finding my way.

Posts: 177 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Colorado Springs
♀ 39996
Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 12:35 AM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't had the pleasure of seeing the other woman. I cannot imagine how that felt. I am sorry you felt so bad. I too had horrible panos attacks back in the beginning


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!

Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
♀ 40302
Member # 40302
Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Guys, I'm so sorry you're all going through this. I, too, used to suffer with really bad panic attacks. I now know that they were caused by the abuse from my stbxh and me not understanding it.

GOOD NEWS for panic attacks--I read something one day that completely stopped them. I haven't had one since. It said:


You have the ability to stop an attack at the onset. When you start to feel dizzy, or afraid, or nervous, take really deep breaths for a full minute. Many panic attacks actually start because we STOP BREATHING and the lack of oxygen puts our bodies into that "fight or flight" survival mode.

Basically, your body feels like it's drowning on dry land and it gets scared that these are its last minutes on Earth.

You have to tell yourself when you feel that first bout of intense dizziness, "I'm not afraid of panic attacks. Panic attacks don't kill me, they don't hurt me. They just go away. I'm not scared of something that only lasts ten minutes."

Literally, I read these words and I applied them to my daily life. Once I understood that panic attacks are a cycle that we build upon, it was possible to intervene in my own thoughts. I am the only one in control of my thoughts and I am responsible for my own fears. When you're no longer afraid of having panic attacks, you will no longer have panic attacks.

I'm in my third year of medical school, so I'm pretty much just sharing what it costs so much darn money to learn, haha.

Try this for a week before trying meds. Nothing is without side effects--the general principles in medication: does the good outweigh the harm?

[This message edited by blindsided03 at 11:18 AM, August 17th (Saturday)]

D12/12...he's a borderline

Posts: 62 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell
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